Achieving Your Goals - Words Make a Difference
Kids have the most amazing insight if you stop and listen to them. Our daughter has an adult relative who lives far away who said to her "I wish I could see you more often". Do you know what she said later? I don't think he means it, or he would see me more often. Good observation.
Let's look at this more closely. When the relative above says "I wish", this person is indicating that 1) they have not made a decision to make it happen and 2) the ability to make visits more often is not within his/her power. To that, I say poppycock!
The decision to "make it so" is the key. Not the how, or why. For any goal, one just has to decide to it and then figure out how. The how will follow. To achieve a goal, it's crucial to decide to do it. It doesn't matter really how or whether you feel that circumstances are outside your control. The means to accomplish this goal will present themselves after you decide. Waiting to think about it or wish about it moves one no closer to achievement. .. and wastes time that could be used constructively toward the goal.
Ok, ok, Nike beat me to it....
To get what we want, we need to get rid of the words "would", "could", "should", "wish", "might" and replace them with "I will" or "I won't". There's no doubt that the Nike slogan has appeal: Just Do It!
If you look at the cause and effect decision making that we do for so many of our decisions, it's very simple: deciding to do it should be first, then how. How many times have you dwelled on making a decision because you started thinking about the how and got stuck? I have, a lot. Unless I take notice, this is the first place I go. It has kept me from taking positive actions more than once.
Many people are comfortable in their world of would, could and should. It's easier to make excuses for failure that way. No promises made to anyone (including oneself), just wishful thinking. Of course, like our daughter pointed out, it's almost always a failure mindset. Without commitment there is no action.
An easy example of this that we all can relate to is diet and exercise. Many of my friends wish they weighed less or "had a body like X". Deciding to get fit and eat right is the first step. The how becomes evident with a bit of studying and organization. Next thing you know... a whole new fit body!
So, it's more the wisdom of our grandfathers and grandmothers than modern science. It goes like this.
1. Consider decision and its impact to you and your important people
2. Decide to do it or not
3. Then, figure out how
I for one am working on replacing the "would, could, should" in my vocabulary with "I will, I can, I shall and you bet!". I have been amazed at the difference that one simple paradigm shift has made in my life. Just Do It!
About the Author: Ainsley Laing, MSc. has been a Fitness Trainer for 25 years and writes exclusively Body for Mind eZine. She holds certifications in Group Exercise, Sports Nutrition and Personal Fitness Training. She is also a professional engineer and mom. To see more articles by Ainsley visit
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Copyright © 2008 Ainsley Laing
Goal Setting and Affirmations: How Forgiveness Fits In
Anyone wanting to invoke the Law of Attraction - where positive thoughts attract positive energy - will sometimes be confronted with a blockage. No matter how often you use your affirmations to attain a certain desire, or the depth of sincerity with which you are affirming, it just doesn't seem to be working. It could be that you are obstructing the very energy that you need to manifest what you want, because you are holding on to anger and resentment. The solution is simple: learn to forgive.
"Those who are at war with others are seldom at peace with themselves." - Anonymous
By harboring negative feelings towards someone, whether they are living or deceased, you are maintaining a bond that keeps you connected to them. The energy that you are preserving is not only negative, but also stagnant. It will keep you from manifesting what you desire. Focusing on negativity will only get you more of the same. If you can manage to forgive, not only will this have a positive, uplifting effect on your well-being -- the other person is also likely to experience the benefits.
A Gift to Yourself
Many people think that granting forgiveness is a sign of weakness, or a noble, altruistic act that you do for the other person, in which you condone what occurred in the past. In fact, you don't have to reconcile to be able to forgive. Forgiveness is rather a "selfish" act, because it is something that you do for yourself. See it as a gift to yourself. By forgiving, you are breaking a negative tie, letting go of the past and allowing lightness and vibrancy into your life.
"As long as you don't forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your mind." - Isabelle Holland
Anyone whom you feel anger, hurt and/or resentment towards is eligible to be forgiven. Start with the first person that pops into your mind while you're reading this and work your way down your list -- all the way to pre-school if you must! And don't forget to forgive yourself. It will feel as if a huge load has been lifted off your shoulders, leaving you free to receive love, prosperity and abundance.
Some suggested affirmations:
* I forgive you completely and freely. * I choose to be free and allow you to be free. * I freely forgive myself and others. * I let go of the past completely and release myself and you from it.
Copyright 2008 Chonticha Marijne
Chonticha Marijne enjoys working from her home in the historical city of Gouda, the Netherlands. Her blog http://goal--setting.blogspot.com/ offers content on goal setting, affirmations and the Law of Attraction as well as a free "7 Part Affirmation Course".
How To Set Your Goals
We know that goal setting is very important for setting up our direction and finally shaping our life. It is however not known to many people that the goals need to be set in the right way otherwise they will not be effective. In this article, we will talk about the importance of the goals and how we can set the goals for our future success. In addition, we will talk about the way to enhance the chance of achieving goals.
Before we go to goal setting, we need to understand why we need goal. How important is goal setting to our life. The answer is that it is very important. Goal setting is so important to the direction in life that we can not be successful if we do not have goals. Leading life without the goals is similar to sailing without a compass. We will not know which direction we are heading. We will not know when and where we are going to end up with. We will not know our destiny. We will leave our life depending upon the environment and the plan other people, the one that have the goals of his own, has made. In real life, we might die only a few days after we have lost our compass while we sail in the ocean.
If goal setting is so important, why do only few people have goals? We learned that majority of people in this world do not come from a family that have goals. They did not learn goal setting in any places in their world and they do not see the important of it. Besides, their parents have never told them the importance of the goal and they lead live like their parents did or are doing. They do not even believe that all successes come from goal setting.
In order to be able to set effective goals, we need to do some homework to find out what we need first. Goal setting without enough motivation to achieve it is like not setting goal at all. Our brain will deny doing things to achieve the goals because we do not see the necessity in our mind. And all things start with the mind. Goal setting is like any other meaningful activity. It needs discipline and hard working to make it and review it. What we need to check so that we can be good at goal setting are the following.
What we like most? What we want to do if we will not have to work for the rest of our life? What we want to do if we do not earn from what we are doing? The answers of these questions will reveal what we want in life and will enable us to have enough reasons for our goals. After we know the reason, we need to write the goals down in paper. Do not just have goals in mind. It will not last. Goal setting will not have any meaning if you just put it in the air and do not want to do anything. Writing down your goals will enhance your possibility of achieving them by five times. Do not ignore this important step. The best time to write down your goal is when you have most powerful mind power which is either before going to bed or immediately after you wake up. The number of goals that you set up will depend on what area you need to concentrate on. The best number of goals should be around twenty for short term and fifty for long term. Keeping the goals with you will help you remind the purpose of them and the steps to follow through.
Regularly visualize yourself achieving the goals will be another process to follow. It will attract the situation and attributes to help us being closer to our goals according to the law of attraction. Make sure that you make enough visualization daily and if you need, you can add the accelerated music to the process.
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You Might Be Wasting Your Time Setting Goals
Why do some people achieve their goals and others don't? The answer to this question is one of the most important concepts to understand if you are serious about becoming successful.
People get the goals that are aligned to their subconscious expectations and they don't get the goal that are contrary to their subconscious expectation.
What do I mean by expectation?
One of the jobs of your subconscious mind is to keep your life "on track" but what is it keeping it on track to? We each have, in our subconscious mind, a model of what life should be like for us. This model is called your expectation.
Where do your expectations come from?
Your expectations comes from the sum total of all your life experiences to date. That includes every thing that you have done, heard, said, read, seen, and experienced. The stronger the emotional impact of an experience or the greater the repetition of an experience, the greater the contribution it makes to your expectation.
How does your expectation influence your life?
Your subconscious uses your expectation as the guide to decide what is "normal" for you. This is a very important function as our survival depends on our ability to behave consistently. This goes right back through our species history all the way to the caveman days. If our caveman ancestor did not possess a drive toward consistency then he would never have learned how to successfully hunt or gather food or how to reliably avoid being eaten by predators.
We live a very different life today to the life lived by the cavemen but our brains are almost identical. Our subconscious still looks to help us be consistent and it does that by building our expectation and keeping us true to it.
If your expectations are subconscious then how do you know what they are?
It is very easy to tell what your subconscious expectations are; just look at your life. What you have and who you are is the reflection of your subconscious expectation.
How do you change your expectations?
We've all experienced what it is like to go against our subconscious expectations. It is usually referred to as being outside our comfort zone. The feeling can range from mild discomfort up to extreme distress depending on how far outside our comfort zone we are.
Successfully changing an unwanted expectation is a two step process.
Step 1: Scramble the unwanted expectation.
There are many powerful techniques that are used to scramble unwanted expectations. I'll give you a simple exercise that combines two of the techniques.
Firstly hold in your mind an image of you experiencing the unwanted expectation. Then fade that image so the colors are duller, the image is blurred any sounds associated with that image are distorted and unintelligible. Then imagine that image being broken up and rearranged like mixing up pieces of a jigsaw puzzle.
The more scrambled you make the image the weaker the subconscious pattern becomes.
Step 2: Now you need to immediately install a new expectation.
The best way to install a new expectation is by using affirmations. Give yourself an affirmation for each characteristic of the new expectation that you want to develop. Make sure that the affirmation is in positive, present moment language.
Repetition increases the power of these techniques.
If you repeat the scrambling exercise each day and follow it immediately with the affirmations then soon you will have your subconscious expectation lining up with your conscious goals and then achieving your goals will be easier than ever before.
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