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Self-Improvement: Coax your Dreams into Reality with a Single Spark of Core Desire

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Mon, 12 May 2008 03:31:51 PDT

Ever since we are a little kid in school and witnessed the world outside of our homes, our little minds are already working up plans. Indeed, even small children are capable of thinking up plans for their life. In their own childish worlds, they already have a burning desire to do something.

They may not yet fully grasp every plan and dream they wish to attain. Still, it boosts their self-image. Their self-esteem may also be elevated much with these dreams, giving them the courage to confront a school bully.

As the years go by, children become adolescents and then, adults. Every stage of their life is, like a little child, still full of plans and dreams. Others may have fulfilled theirs while others are still seeking of ways to achieve theirs.

Meanwhile, there are also people who seem to have their head full of desires and ambitions but remain just that. What do we make of these people? Are you one of them?

Do not lose heart or your self-image and self-esteem if ever you are one of those that cannot seem to find a way to strike the match and brighten their way into fulfilling their dreams. You might just be following the wrong dream. Or have not tapped the full wealth of your hidden potential.

Indeed, every one of us has quite an extensive hidden potential growing and developing throughout the years. Once we know of this, next thing we have to do is learn to identify and direct our hidden potential. You might discover that you are born to be a ballerina. Or that you are gifted with a talent of acting, singing or leading people. Your dream may also involve traveling the world and meeting famous and legendary personages.

However, without proper, prompt and persistent guidance and learning you cannot develop the power of motivating yourself strongly towards your dream. Motivation is the key to all self-improvement. Maybe we know exactly what we want, and the plans we have drawn for ourselves are realistic enough. Without that elemental force that drives us to strive and increase the light of our humbly lit, wish candles.

Persistence and proper action is the answer will unleash power of man to motivate him/her self. Everything we wanted out of life ever since we are little is achieved because of this powerful and vast motivation to oneself. Everything we wanted and failed to achieve are the result of the lack of proper motivation.

We may have improved, but our full-blown self-improvement is still wanting.

Do not be mistaken, though about this. If you seem lost in the silken web of dreams you spun, do not think you are not motivated. There is no person born without motivation. You just lack the proper learning and training on how to force out your specific desires, cultivate a powerful yearning, and drive to attain them. You might also lack self-esteem and your self-image is way down below.

Motivation is something we are born with. That spark in you can develop into a raging fire of determination. Just think, if other people would motivate you to achieve a certain dream, it would not have that lasting effect because other people are also touch-and-go in our lives. The motivation they can offer is limited.

Meanwhile, if you discover that faint spark in you and feed it continuously, it will spread out and consume all of you. Then and only then can you have the lasting power to get what you want out of life.

The faint spark is your core desires. They are your dreams, hopes and wishes, whipped into shape as you grow older and learn more. If we stunted our growth as a person and lost enough self-esteem, that faint spark may die and our desires may never develop into reality. If we continue feeding it by uplifting our level of awareness, self-improvement and self-image, then they are just there around the corner.

Knowing your core desires is both easy but quite complicated to do. Make a list of everything you really liked to do from the time you were a kid and until today. This list is yours alone. Do not muddle it up with what others are egging you on to or coaching you to answer. Be honest with yourself and the list you will draw up once finished will bring you full force motivation.

Take down everything you knew and learned that you really like to have. Avoid listing things that would be nice to have or do. Be brutally honest with yourself.

Do not make a mental list, write it down and you will see the difference. Once you have the list, then start figuring out ways and clear out the path into getting the core desires you want.

It will be a measure of your self-improvement once you never let go of your core desires. Your self-esteem and self-image will sustain your unwavering motivation. Let the fire of motivation keep burning in you!

Mary Murtha has BLS and M. Div degrees majoring in biblical studies and ethics. For more info about Self Image and Self Improvement Tips visit Best Self Improvement Info

An Easy Way To Soothe Stress

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Sun, 11 May 2008 09:25:41 PDT

Hey, listen up. It�s time to relax, chill out, and release those pent-up physical, mental and emotional tensions. When dealing with everyday stress and the probability of stress build-up, NOW is always the right time to be proactive; to beat stress before it beats you.

Think of stress as a silent enemy. It can sneak up on you at any time and get you down before you even realize what�s happening. More often than not stress is accompanied by it�s close companion: higher levels of anxiety.

So, what do you do?

You take action, that�s what. Your very first line of defence is to establish a habit of performing a regular relaxation routine. Getting into a deep state of relaxation induces calmness to soothe your body, your mind and your emotions.

And what is a state of calmness?

It�s the exact opposite of stress and anxiety. As a matter of fact, you could call it the antidote to stress and anxiety.

Start using this antidote. Take time out at least twice every day to do the relaxation routine outlined below. Regard this as your quality time; a time for you and you alone. Start thinking calm, feeling calm, and being calm.

Relaxation Routine

1. Lie down, or sit in a comfortable armchair or recliner.

2. Take a deep breath and hold it for about five seconds. Release that breath slowly, and imagine all feelings of stress and tension leaving your body as you release the air. When the air has left your lungs, hold your breath once again for about five seconds before breathing in. As you breathe in imagine your body and mind filling with calmness.

3. Repeat this cycle of breathing a number of times until your breathing falls in a nice long, slow gentle rhythm. Allow a comfortable pause at the end of each inhalation and exhalation.

4. As you maintain the relaxing rhythm of your breathing, bring your attention to the top of your head. Imagine that all the tiny muscles in your scalp are being soothed and massaged by warm invisible hands.

5. Feel the warm hands massaging around your ears and down along the back of your neck to the tops of your shoulders.

6. Now bring your attention to your forehead. Feel those invisible fingers smoothing away any wrinkles that may be in your forehead.

7. Next, focus on your eyes. Imagine the warm fingers gentle massaging all around your eyes. Feel the relaxing warmth from the fingers spreading throughout your eyes; feel your eyes relaxing and letting go of all tensions.

8. Think of the soothing hands massaging the rest of your face. Notice how your lower jaw relaxes and notice how this cosy, warm feeling of relaxation spreads into your tongue.

9. Check your breathing once again to make sure it�s rhythm is long and slow.

10. Now bring your attention to the invisible hands and imagine them massaging and loosening your shoulders and shoulder blades. Imagine what it would be like if waves of relaxation were flowing down along your arms and into your fingertips.

11. Those massaging hands now work on your back. They soothe and loosen the muscles on either side of your spine, and then stroke smoothly down along the vertebrae.

12. Imagine what it would be like to feel a state of deep relaxation seeping downwards into your legs and feet. Imagine how all the muscles in your legs and feet would go loose and limp.

13. Allow feelings of deep relaxation and calmness to immerse your body and your mind.

14. Feel yourself drifting deeper and deeper into pleasurable feelings of calmness and tranquility.

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Michael Connolly, D.H.P., is a retired Hypnotherapist and Psychoanalyst. Through study, practice and teaching over a period of three decades, he has also accumulated a broad knowledge of parapsychology and metaphysics. Author's Website. - No More Stress. - Copyright (c) Michael Connolly 2008.

61 STEPS TO REDUCE TENSION

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Sat, 10 May 2008 11:17:34 PDT

1. Identify the real cause of stress.

2. Events causing stress should be noted down and analyse it once in a month.

3. Your reactions to each stressful events should be recollected and compared with one another.

4. Should not give immediate response to stressful event; always take little time to think.

5. If any tension comes ask your inner man (Mind) for a solution, he is more intelligent than you.

6. Past is past always concentrate on future events and gather courage and willpower.

7. Need not bother about your loss, but find out the reason for it and try to solve it.

8. Face all situations with confidence.

9. Keep faith in god and worship him.

10. Always hope for the best.

11. Always keep a positive approach.

12. Before doing any thing plan a solution to face a negative situation.

13. Should not live only for money.

14. Help the poor people .

15. Visit the sick people and give them moral support.

16. Whenever you are tensed take a deep breath and relax.

17. If you are tensed countdown from 100 to 1.

18. If any stress comes look at the beautiful picture kept on the wall.

19. Keep some flowers in the room and have a look.

20. Practice breathing exercises regularly.

21. Keep little time for yoga and meditation.

22. Aromatherapy is good to relax the mind.

23. If you are tensed make a surprise call to your old friend.

24. When you are tensed think about others who suffer from more serious problems.

25. Keep close contact with your family and share the problems with them.

26. Go for pleasure trips with the family members.

27. Avoid sedentary life, always mingle with others.

28. Always approach others with a smile.

29. Laughing and sharing jokes with others will make you relaxed.

30. When you are tensed visit your close friend or relative.

31. If any stressful event comes discuss it with your intimate friend.

32. Spend little time with your kids and join their plays.

33. If you get time go for a healthy discussion on any interesting topic.

34. Always approach the people in a polite manner.

35. Maximum attempt should be made to reduce enemies.

36. Keep a regular routine for your activities.

37. Never postpone the works.

38. Sound sleep is very essential to relax your mind and body.

39. Always prefer room with fresh air.

40. Getup early in the morning.

41. After waking have a nice bath with your favourite shampoo.

42. Use some perfumes and room freshners you like.

43. Have a relaxing body massage.

44. Personal hygiene should be maintained.

45. Your health problems should be discussed with the doctor and follow his instructions.

46. Make a habit of cleaning the home and surroundings.

47. Keep sexual relations with only one partner.

48. Morning and evening walk is� good to relax.

49. Afternoon sleep is good but should not be a deep sleep with snoring.

50. Listen good music and go for a movie with your intimate friend.

51. Reading interesting books can reduce tension.

52. Gardening is a useful method to relax.

53. Spend little time with pet animals.

54. Engage in some games. �

55. Keep some time to engage in your hobbies.

56. When you get time write some literal things like articles, poems and stories.

57. Keep a regular timing for food.

58. Take plenty of fruits and vegetables.

59. Prepare your favorite meal and have it with your family.

60. Having food from restaurants may give you a good mood.�

61. Excess of drinking and smoking should be avoided.

How We Became Wealthy

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Thu, 8 May 2008 19:02:52 PDT

I got asked again today.

"Tony, how did you become wealthy?"

There's probably a lot of answers to that question but the answer I gave (and nearly always do) is simply this:

To become wealthy, you have to think like a wealthy person.

Every week, I talk to dozens of people who dream of becoming wealthy. They're tired of working more hours for less money. They're tired of never seeing their family. They're tired of taking their vacation days and using it to only go visit their relatives and letting their kids play with their cousins.

And so they've called me to talk about becoming wealthy. And it's very easy for me to see which ones are going to actually succeed and which ones will continue to struggle.

I simply watch how they think.

For example, if someone is struggling to pay their bills and that is their REASON for why they're starting a business, that person will find a way to be successful. They're motivated. They're focused on a solution. They realize that -- if things are going to change -- it has to start with them. And they're committed to be successful.

On the other hand, if a person says "Oh, I can't get started in business, I'm too broke".....that person is already defeated. Because they are choosing to let their circumstances dictate what they can do. They will continue to use that situation as an excuse for why they can't be more successful. Which means that they are creating their own self-fulfilling prophecy.

I can usually call these people back in 6 months and they're no better off than they were when they first contacted me.

What's the difference?

It's how people THINK. This is what Napoleon Hill meant when he titled his book, "Think and Grow Rich".

Wealthy people think differently than broke people. They don't ask "can I?" They ask "how can I?"

One of my favorite authors, Ayn Rand, once said, "What do you mean who's going to let me? You mean, who's going to stop me!"

Back when Jessica and I chose to start our business, we were broke. We were living in a very small cinder-block house. We had no heat. I was earning less than $1,000 a month. We were two months late on our rent. Our car broke down frequently.

But we believed things could be better. We believed there was a way we could become wealthy and start living the life we deserved.

When it came to finding the money to start our business, we could have easily said, "I don't have the money." But, what would have changed? It's not like either of us had a rich uncle who was suddenly going to remember us on his deathbed. Or that our fairy godmother was going to show up and hand us lots of money just because we wished for it.

No, we did what a lot of people do: we scraped and borrowed and did whatever we had to do. We sold things we owned. Jessica took a part-time job on a short-term basis. I did odd-jobs for a friend of mine.

And when we made the decision that we were not going to let fear or other obstacles stand in our way, things started coming together in a way that we could have never planned or predicted.

So, if the question is, "How do you become wealthy?" the answer is simply, "Start thinking like a wealthy person".

Would a billionaire every say, "No, I can't do that."? No. They say, "I'm going to do that" and they find a way.

There are two kinds of people in the world: stoppable and unstoppable.

Which are you?
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Tony Rush is one of the real characters of personal development and is the co-author of the book, "It's Time....". He spends part of his free time showing others how to follow the same system he used to create wealth in less than 20 hours a week. He lives in Alabama with his wife Jessica, three sons and a dachsund named Bentley who doesn't know he's a dog. For more information on Tony Rush visit http://www.tonyrush.com

How To Develop True Self Worth and Really Win

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Thu, 1 May 2008 19:32:52 PDT

In order to feel good about themselves, most compare themselves to others, compete and try to win in all areas of their life. They do not realize, however, that this often can be an expression of aggression towards others, and ultimately also towards themselves.

When we want to be better than others, we are also driven to make sure they remain beneath us. We do what we can to keep them in their place, and look for their failings and weaknesses. We may also take pleasure in their hardships and losses. When famous people fall from their pedestal and suffer, many feel relief that they are not so much better after all.

How We Compare Ourselves To Others

Some are not able to relate at all to others who they feel are "better than them. They fill their worlds with those who they feel are inferior, (and treat them that way, to keep them in their place.)� Some are drawn to those who they think are better than them, and spend a lot of time trying to tear the person down. Others become members of sports team and take great relish in beating the others, proving that they are "best".

Living this way, one becomes unable to see the beauty and gifts which each person has and which they could otherwise share with you. This keeps you on edge, looking for ways you can maintain your superiority. Relationships become power struggles. There is little fulfillment, or true sense of self worth.

Pride Vs. Self Worth

Pride creates a grandiose, false sense of self and causes the person to close themselves off to many situations, possibilities, insights and relationships. Pride also causes them to be out of touch with true self worth, who they truly are, what really brings happiness.

A true sense of self worth, on the other hand, provides enjoyment when dealing with all kinds of individuals. With true self worth you do not need to compare yourself to others, tear them apart or feel superior. Instead, you are able to value who they are and share you both of your gifts.� As Emerson wisely said, a rose in the garden does not compare itself with another. It just blooms as it is intended to.

Exercise�

Step 1: Recognizing The Many Faces Of Pride:�� Make a list of those you feel better than. Who are they? Why are you better than them? A) Make a list of those you feel are better than you. Who are they? How does this make you feel? How do you behave with them? This exercise will surprise you. Be honest with yourself. You may also be astonished to see how many people you've written out of your life.

Step 2: Stop Comparing

A) Pick someone on your list that you feel better than. Write down all their positive qualities. Now, stop

comparing yourself to this person. Let them be who they are. Let you be who you are, as well. Enjoy the differences between you.

B) Do the same with someone you think is better than you. Can you allow both of you to have positive qualities though they may be different? Can you stop comparing in this case as well?

Step 3: A New Meeting

A) Contact the person you feel better than and go out with them to lunch. Make the meeting all about them. Don't talk much. Really find out about them. Give them a chance to be the star. Do the same with someone who feels they are better than you. You'll be amazed to discover how much others crave being heard and known, how shaky they are about who they are. As you do this you'll see that you don't have to tear others down to feel good about yourself.

Step 4: Each One Is The Best One

As soon as you notice yourself feeling better than another, let it go and let them be the star.� Realize that both of you can be wonderful. As soon as you notice that you feel someone else is better than you, do the same. Look for their good qualities and yours as well. Find out more about them. Talk to them about themselves and really listen. Letm the true person they are emerge. Don't buy into a fantasy. It won't do you any good.

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Who Controls Your Mind?

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Thu, 1 May 2008 08:18:02 PDT

Few people are aware of the thoughts that pass through their minds. Thinking is performed like a habit, in an automatic manner. If the thoughts are positive, then it is all right, but if they are negative, they may cause trouble.

The mind is like small child, who accepts and takes for granted whatever it sees or hears, without judgment and without considering the consequences. If you let your mind behave as it likes and give it complete freedom, you lose your freedom.

We are constantly flooded with thoughts, ideas and information coming through the five senses, other people, the newspapers and TV. These thoughts, ideas and information penetrate the mind whether we are aware of this process or not.

This outside flow influences our behavior and reactions. It influences the way we think, our preferences, likes and dislikes. This means that we let outside powers shape our lives. So where is freedom?

Most people think and believe that their thoughts originate from them, but have they ever stopped and considered whether their thoughts, desires, likes and dislikes are really theirs? Maybe they have come from the outside, and they have unconsciously accepted them as their own?

If there is no filter to process the thoughts that enter the mind, there is no freedom. Then all actions are like the actions of a puppet on a string, though no one will admit it.

You may object and say that the thoughts that pass through your mind are yours, but are they? Have you deliberately and attentively created every thought that entered your mind?

Why let outside influences control your mind and life? Why let other people's thoughts control your life and mind? Do you want to make your mind free or do you prefer to enslave it to other people's opinions and thoughts? If you leave your mind open to every thought that passes by, you put our life in other people's hands, and without realizing it, you accept their thoughts and act in accordance with them.

Each person is more susceptible to certain kind of thoughts than others. Certain thoughts and ideas we ignore, and others spur us to immediate action. Thoughts concerning subjects we love have more power on us than other thoughts, but even thoughts and ideas that we don't care about, if we are frequently exposed to them, eventually sink into the subconscious mind and influence us.

Everyone has desires, ambitions and dreams that he or she may foster from childhood. They may be the thoughts of parents, teachers and friends, and which have lodged into our minds, and are carried around throughout our lives. Are they necessary? Do we need all this excessive baggage?

In order to reduce the power of outside influences and thoughts on your life, you need to be aware of the thoughts and desires that enter your mind, and ask yourself whether you really like them, and are willing to accept them into your life. Analyze your motives and actions, and you will be surprised to find out that many of them were triggered by outside influences.

You do not have to accept each and every thought, idea or information. Think and find out whether you entertain certain thoughts because you decided to do so, or because they just popped into your head due to outside influences.

Learn not to accept every thought that you encounter. Find first whether it is for your own good to follow it. It may not be so easy at the start, because the mind will revolt against this control. If you want to be the master of your mind and life, you should not let other people's thoughts, desires and motives rule your life, unless you consciously choose so.

� Copyright Remez Sasson

Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are "Peace of mind in Daily Life", "Will Power and Self Discipline", "Visualize and Achieve" and "Affirmations - Words of Power".

Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.
Website: http://www.SuccessConsciousness.com

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visualize Your Goal - A Philadelphia Life Coach Tells You Why and How

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:48:08 PDT

The first step in any life change is to visualize what it is that you want for yourself.� Before you can plan the necessary action, you need to know where you are heading. �To do this you must visualize your goal.

Conceptualize Your Goal in Positive Terms

The desire to change is usually motivated by dissatisfaction with the present situation. Because of this, when it's time to identify your goals, you may think in terms of what you want to get rid of.

The problem with focusing on what you don't want is that it doesn't really help you to identify what it is that you do want. You can see what you are moving away from but you lack clear objective regarding where you want to go.

When you conceptualize your goals in positive terms you give yourself direction:��

What is it that you really want?��

What would feel right for you?��

If you could write your own script and have things turn out exactly as you want them to, what would the outcome be?

Knowing where you want to go tells you where you are heading.� Once you have clear direction, the steps you need to take will become apparent.

You Can Visualize Your Goal, Even If You Don't Know How You Will Achieve It.

You may resist visualizing your goal if you have no idea how you are going to get from here to there.� It is important, however, to recognize that knowing where you want to go provides necessary direction that will inform the steps you need to take.

Once you know where you are headed, it becomes much easier to identify the steps to get there.� You will become alert to possibilities you might not have noticed, were you not focused on your goal.

How To Visualize Your Goals

While thoughts about how you'd like things to be may come and go, it is valuable to set time aside to focus on your goals.� This process can provide clarity, which will help you to find direction.

1.� Give yourself some time when you know you will be uninterrupted.

Sit down, take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to relax. Or, if inspiration comes more easily when you are taking a walk or a run or swimming laps, use that time to imagine what it is you want for yourself.� What's important is that you give yourself space and time to really focus on how you want your future to be.

2.� Now, ask yourself "What is it that I really want here?"

Don't try to figure out the answer to this question. Instead, allow some time for the awareness of your goal to emerge.� Be open to anything that comes to you.

3.� Imagine that you have achieved your goal.

Notice how you feel with your goal accomplished.� Be aware of any unexpected consequences that come to mind as you imagine your goal fulfilled.

If potential unforeseen consequences came to mind when you imagined your vision fulfilled, give yourself plenty of opportunity to address any questions raised. Be very patient with the process.

Suspend judgment for now This is a creative process, like brainstorming. Quiet any critical voice that says "You could never do that!" or "That's impossible!"� Encourage yourself to dream big.� Later on you will have plenty of opportunity to assess the feasibility of your vision and explore ways you can implement it.

You may need to allow a few days or even weeks for the details of your vision to take form.� Be open to any additional inspiration that comes to you after you initially visualize your goal.

You can keep track of your vision as it evolves by keeping a journal in which you record the insights you receive. �Taking notes will enable you to feel confident that you won't forget any of the details.

Once your goal is clear, you can explore the possibilities for achieving it. Through this process the 'how to's' will become apparent.� Your initial vision may be modified in the process, but you will be moving in the right direction toward making your good life better!

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Drawing on skills and expertise developed over 30 years experience, Jeannette Samanen Ph.D. provides effective life coaching, empowering you to achieve your goals.� Subscribe to her "Make Your Good Life Better" newsletter at http://www.achieveyourgoals.com .

Moving to a simpler life, but where do I start?

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 09:19:39 PDT

Does the thought of simplifying your surroundings and life sound wonderful, but the challenges of the making the transition keeps you from making a change? You are not alone! Regardless of how attractive it may seem, downsizing a lifetime can be an emotional and organizational nightmare.

To assure that the transition is less stressful, consider these downsizing tips:

Start with a plan As the old adage goes "if you fail to plan you plan to fail." This is so true when it comes to planning a successful downsizing move. I recommend starting a 3-ring binder with tabs to collect all the information in one place related to your move.

Start sorting now Sorting through a lifetime of possessions can be overwhelming, but it must be done. Schedule regular sessions with yourself or with a Professional Organizer. Pick one area to start, ideally an area that you are not currently using. The important thing

is to begin and to be consistent. Decisions, decisions How do you decide what to take and what to part with? In my work with clients, I always stress visualizing and planning for the lifestyle you are transitioning to, not the lifestyle you are transitioning from. When moving to a smaller space, every item kept should have a function and a specific purpose. So let go of that 20-year-old console TV that may still work, but takes up half the room and keep the newer portable cable-ready TV that can easily fit anywhere.

Make a floor plan As soon as you have a new home confirmed, begin planning the floor plan. This makes deciding what stays and what goes so much easier. Even if you haven't decided on a specific new home yet, it's never too early to give some thought to what items you know you will take with you and plan main rooms like the living room, master bedroom and kitchen.

What to do with all the stuff? It takes time to find homes for all the stuff you will not be moving with you. By starting early you will have the time to find just the right home for your belongings. Make a list of all the items you will not be taking and begin talking with family and friends to see what they may be interested in purchasing or taking offer your hands. Also begin collecting resources like auction houses, antique stores that buy items, storage facilities and haulers.

Experience the emotions of the transition You will experience many emotions as you sort through a lifetime of memories. Moving is a transition at any age, but a downsizing move represents a transition from one lifestyle to another. All transitions contain an element of loss and excitement, as you experience once again memories of the past and anticipate the new life ahead. Expect to feel some grief along with your excitement and anticipation.

Janet Nusbaum, President of Simplified Spaces, Organizing Consultant, Senior Move Manager, Speaker, Coach, and author of 'Mom, Can I Help Around the House?' helps individuals, families and businesses to organize life and navigate transitions. To learn more and to receive Janet's FREE special report "SHELF LIFE FOR 75 COMMON HOUSEHOLD PRODUCTS", to help you decide what to keep and what to toss, visit

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How To Use Affirmation Properly

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 19:31:35 PDT

�I am, therefore I exist,� is a phrase affirming one�s existence as a being. It may be a simple phrase, but it says everything about the being saying them. It indicates a confidence not commonly found among other beings.

But why do people need affirmation? Why do beings need to be affirmed? Is existence relative to one�s affirmation?

Affirmation is a very powerful technique to empower one�s subconscious. Once the subconscious is disciplined to believe one�s affirmation, the latter is converted into a positive action for the conscious mind. Through affirmation, beings are empowered to do, to work, and to strive for more things. Affirmation allows people to believe in themselves and to put their thoughts into action.

Affirmation is a combination of verbal and visual techniques of a preferred state of mind of a person. Strong affirmations can be very powerful, and can be used by almost anyone to achieve his goals and fulfill his desires. However, the power of an affirmation depends on how strong or weak an affirmation is.�

Affirmation is merely an assertion made by a person, about something or about a state of being. A person can affirm those that he chooses to attain, like �I now have a good life.� Being healthy in mind, body, and spirit can also be made possible through affirmation.

A strong affirmation should be stated in the present tense to be more effective. An affirmation of �I am now a happy being� is more effective than an affirmation saying, �I am going to become a happy being.� Affirmation should always be in positive terms because it is supposed to work for you and not against you. Instead of saying, �I am not sad,� why not make an affirmation saying, �I am happy.��

An affirmation should be made up of simple but concise words, and it should be short to be more effective. A very long affirmation can work the other way around, instead of creating a positive mindset for a person. A short affirmation can be easily spoken and repeated by a person. It can serve as a mantra that can be repeated over and over again.

To be effective, an affirmation must be repeated. Repetition works and influences the subconscious, which in turn motivates the person into acting out his affirmation. A person who creates the affirmation should be deeply involved with the words he will be using, so he will be able to actualize his affirmation. Writing words that one believes in can be very powerful, and this can be put to good use when creating an affirmation.

However, creating an affirmation alone and repeating them a million times would not make the affirmation a state of mind. The important thing is to live one�s affirmation and to be open-minded enough to do the things that would help the affirmation become a reality. Feeling the affirmation and applying it in one�s life will help in making the affirmation a reality.

While affirmation is generally used to make an individual better, it can also be used to boost or confirm another person�s value. By affirming another person�s existence, you are helping him improve his self-worth.�

Affirmation is a very simple thing that can make a very big difference in a person�s life. It can be a great motivator and can make things happen.�

How to Overcome Jealousy, Guaranteed!

nobody@www.42tales.com (shahjee) — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 09:21:52 PDT

There is nothing more pathetic and unattractive than jealousy. I have yet to find anything productive that comes from being jealous. It makes you do stupid things, and it makes her stop liking you.

Here is something that you MUST accept... If she is going to cheat on you, raging jealousy will only speed along the process. It certainly won't stop her. You have to develop the attitude that "if she's going to cheat on me, I want it to happen." That way you can move on to better things.

Yes, as with anything, sometimes a person will respond well to you showing a little emotion. But trust me, you are MUCH better off never being jealous than searching for just the right amount of jealousy.

The reason is that jealousy automatically signals insecurity. And nobody wants to be with someone that is insecure. Girls want to be with the catch, the prize, someone who knows he's got a lot to offer. They don't want to be with someone who thinks she is going to leave him for every guy she talks to. And here's a hint, if you let her know you're afraid of her leaving you, then she probably will.

You must keep your life that you had before you started dating. This will help tremendously with jealousy. Jealousy usually comes as the result of not having any other options. When you are that afraid of losing someone, every little thing can be seen as a threat. So you have to keep your life outside of the relationship strong. I'm not saying you should keep other girls on the line, but you should know that you can go out and get another girl the next day if you have to. If you have a great life, you won't freak out over the little things, because you will be fine no matter what happens.

Put yourself in her shoes. If you talk to someone of the opposite sex, it doesnt mean that you are interested in them. The same goes for her. Just because she has friends of the opposite sex, or talks to them occasionally, doesnt mean that she is going to cheat on you. But if you throw a fit every time she does it, it might actually push her away.

So keep your mind off of these paranoid thoughts by staying busy with other interests, and looking at things outside of your emotions. If you can keep this attitude, or at least act like it. You will be more attractive to your partner and your relationships will prosper.

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