Ten Ways To Make Time For The Important Things
Making time for the important things in life is a real challenge. Have you ever ended the day with the feeling that you were as busy as you could possibly be, but didn't make any progress on the really important things? Have you been resentful of the time and energy you have to spend on meeting the demands of others? Have you ever felt out of control - that outside forces take up all your time - and you feel like a victim?
Here are ten ways you can make time for the really important things in your life.
1 - Decide what is really important to you. The 3 to 5 most important things in your life - no more than that.. This sounds so simple - and so easy. It isn't. I challenge you to sit down and write out the 3 to 5 most important things you want to accomplish in your life. Most people won't do that. It takes time and focused thought - but it is the single best investment of time you can make.
2 - Make what's important to you the foundation of your goals. Then align your goals with the requirements of those people, institutions, organizations that are important to you and can contribute to your success. This requires a shift in thought from feeling imposed on by others to seeing the requirements of others as contributing to your success. Making that mind shift can be the most liberating thing you can ever do.
3 - Adopt a "good enough" habit of thought toward the the things you must do but that are not part of your top goals. Trying to make everything the "best possible" sounds laudable - but it's a sure recipe for failure. "Best possible" and perfection can literally suck up all the time you've got, and for things that aren't really that important.
4 - Place a high value on creating structure and limiting your choices. See them as positive behaviors in your battle to preserve as much of your time as you can for the important few. Set boundaries of time, energy and money around the less important.
5 - Create a habit of thought that allows you to replace instinctive reaction with considered response. It's very easy, and lazy, to wait for an outside stimulus to create response. It's hard to sort out and choose response - but critical to your own success.
6 - Learn to say "No." There will always be demands on your time in excess of the time you have available, and while the demands of others may be good for them, they may not be good for you. Work to act only on those demands that are a win - win. Remind yourself that the price paid for having too much to do and too little time is that nothing gets done to even a "good enough" level.
7 - Make routine, predictable and structured all the "good enough" stuff. To the extent that you create routines, the focus of your thoughts and actions can be used for the important stuff. It's amazing how much real thought and planning and decision making can be accomplished while performing the routines of mowing the lawn, raking the leaves, doing the dishes....... A friend who travels a lot on business sees routines as his close friends - they keep him supplied with all his day to days, and allow him to focus on the important things. An example - he always parks his rental car under a light post while traveling - always. Why? It's easier to find it if he forgets where he parked it. Simple - effective.
8 - When it comes to the really important things, forget "multitasking." A focused hour spent on a top goal beats a day spent on "thin things." Busy is not the same as effective - often it's just an avoidance tool - it's procrastination dressed in activity.
9 - Act with enthusiasm - nothing makes things work better than energy and optimism - the belief that good things will come from our actions, and the expectation that our goals will be met and exceeded. And. if some of the routine things simply don't call for enthusiasm, then adopting a mindset of acceptance places a much higher value on accomplishing them. Saying to yourself " As soon as I've got that done - I can get on to the neat stuff" creates a reward for yourself.
10 - Enjoy the rewards of your self discipline. When the combination of the most important and the" good enough" results in your success - however you define that elusive word - take the time to celebrate.
Use these ten ways to protect as much of your energy and time and optimism as possible. The result will be greater success in the things that matter to you most - whatever they may be.
Andy Cox helps clients align their resources and design and implement change through the application of goals focused on the important few elements that have maximum impact in achieving success - as defined by the client. He can be reached at http://www.coxconsultgroup.com or acox@coxconsultgroup.com
Goal Setting, Personal Planning and Success – How to set very SMART goals!
Goal setting, is a skill that you have to learn if you want success. Goal setting, personal planning and action are key elements in your success. Goal setting is so important that there has been a lot written on this topic.
The biggest challenge is setting goals and then going on to achieve them. If you can set goals according to your personal plan and you can get into the habit of achieving them you will have success. However many people fail to follow through on their goals.
The secret is to use a simple, basic process for setting your goals and make sure that you have some means of achieving them, without making them so easy that they don’t really stretch you.
The four keys to success in Goal setting
There are four main elements to a good goal, encompassed in the acronym S.M.A.R.T. This stands for:
Specific – your goals should be specific, as specific as you can make them. The more specific they are the easier it will be for you to know when you’ve achieved them and to measure your progress towards achieving them. Rather than say “I want to make a lot of money” a good goal would say “I want an income of $5000 per month by October 1st 2006”. Can you see the difference.
You might hesitate to be specific because you might not know what you can achieve – pick a number that seems exciting but not completely insane and go with it.
Measurable Make sure you can measure your goal – if you can’t measure it, how will you know you’ve got it? “I want an income of $5000 per month by October 1st 2006” fits the bill nicely!
You may want to set a goal in some other area of your life where the measurement may be more difficult – e.g. you may want to improve your relationship with your spouse or your boss. Think about how you’re going to know when you’re there – will it mean no more rows, will it mean something else like you eat out together once a week? Think of something that is going to be evidence of achieving your goal.
Realistic This is a tricky one – you have to balance the need for your goal to be achievable with the need for your goal to stretch you. Goals that do not stretch you simply won’t inspire you – would you really get excited about doing your weekly grocery shop 1 day earlier? On the other hand setting a goal to be 10 feet tall is just not going to happen unless you end up in a delusional state!
You will need to use your own judgement here. You will also need to practise the art of goal setting – as you set goals more often in a particular area, you are going to get better at judging what’s achievable but realistic for you. Accept that you may need to learn by trail and error at first.
Time-bound You’ve got to know when you want your goal to be finished. Our money example does this very well. The object of setting goals is to move your forward in your life, this has to happen by a certain time or you will die before you get there. Your goals simply must be time-bound. Choosing the time frame can make the difference between a realistic and an unrealistic goal (doubling your income next week might be a bit difficult, over 5 years it should be easily achievable).
Be SMART when you are setting your goals and take the actions you need to achieve them and you will be well on the road to success.
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Seven Steps to Designing the Life You Deserve
Feel something’s not right in your life? Feeling stuck? Not sure where you’re headed? Are you simply searching for more?
No need to swim against the current of your life, engulfed in frustration. You can take steps today to release what’s holding you back, reshape the direction of your life and sail forward in an effortless flow.
Here are seven steps to transforming your life by design:
1. Accept yourself and your life as they are now! Where you are in your life today right now is precisely where you are supposed to be. Think about it. Your life is your story and it is meant to inspire others to achieve their own personal greatness. Lovingly embrace yourself and your amazing, unique story with open arms.
2. Be grateful. Express gratitude daily for who you are, what you have, and what you do. Start your day with words of thanksgiving. Share your gratitude for others through your words and actions. Let the people in your life know how important they are to you. Remember: being grateful first is a non-negotiable prerequisite for attracting into your life all that you desire and deserve. So give thanks daily.
3. Name your pain. Identify it. Isolate what has you stuck. What is blocking the flow of your life? Relationship issues? Regrets? Anger? Pluck them from the core of your emotional being. Line them all up on the table. Get ready to face your foes. The key is to be completely honest with yourself.
4. Forgive yourself and others. Thank yourself and the others for giving you such powerful life lessons. The act of forgiving is intended to make you a whole person again regardless of the response of the other person. Forgiveness frees you and allows you to embrace with hope the promises of tomorrow.
5. Release the pain and move on. Journal your feelings. Write letters and tear them up. Scream into your pillow. Most importantly, breath through the pain. Life’s lacerations will always be a part of your story but they need not obstruct you from living the life you so bountifully deserve. Stop being a victim. You have only one precious life to live. Let go of what does not serve you and make the decision to move on now! Strive to thrive.
6. Design what you intend to do with your one life. Visualize the reality you know you deserve. Create your vision board. Fill it with pictures, words, and symbols that draw you forward to fulfill the purpose for which you were created. Give yourself permission to dream and dream big. We are meant to live abundantly!
7. Take action daily. Prioritize your daily activities, focusing on those that move you closer to your goals. Be accountable to yourself and others on a daily basis. A willingly and purposefully set high standards for yourself. Joyfully move forward in the direction of your vision. Savor the fine flavor of inner peace and fulfillment that come from actively working the purpose for which you were created.
So step through what stops you. Walk with a definite purpose and work with a definite purpose, offering hope and inspiration to others through your story of success.
Colorize your life by transforming the basic black and white of everyday living into the vibrant, colorful spectrum of possibilities that awaits you.
Choose to change. Choose to be unstoppable. Choose to live a life brimming with abundance. The choice is yours.
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PERSONAL MAGNETISM.
Let us understand. You cannot reasonably hope to succeed by merely dreaming about success.
You surely cannot achieve success if you plunge blindly through your career.
You cannot really succeed without possessing some degree of personal magnetism.
When you began reading this article, you certainly possessed a measure of magnetic capacity, either physical or psychic. If you have energetically observed its directions, you have developed both varieties; but, above that, you have also combined them into one living whole, the magnetic personality.
This result has required at least a year of persistent effort. If you have arrived at this point in less time, you should go back and begin where haste first retarded your progress.
Magnetism is a natural growth.
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No matter how great may be your ability to read and understand books, that growth, that law, require time as well as intelligent effort. No matter how poor may be your ability in such respect, that growth is absolutely certain if you put reasonable time and genuine effort into its acquisition.
The giant trees of California were once puny saplings. The slow lapse of time has drawn nature into their mighty hearts. Magnetism can no more be acquired by the mere reading an article, or by hurried practice of its directions, than can these giants of the West be produced in the hot-house culture of a northern summer.
Magnetic growth is naturally slow. Its principles, its methods, and the results of its study, have to be deeply sunk into and absorbed and assimilated by the subjective self before the reaction of magnetism in the objective life can obtain. If you have read these lines correctly, you have learned that magnetic growth cannot be hurried. These statements are placed here because, had they appeared at the beginning of our work, the outlook would have seemed, perhaps, discouraging, but more especially because they would not have been understood. You now understand them because you have toiled, and you can afford to smile at such possible discouragement. You have paid an easy price for magnetic power, for the gains discount the pains.
Magnetism and practical life.
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The faithful observance of these suggestions has developed many surprises during the time occupied. The growth of magnetism involves intense and continuous concentration of thought upon the psychic field, and it is very likely that you may find it necessary to guard against that danger. The method of so guarding is briefly indicated below.
The sole value of magnetism consists in its practical application to everyday affairs. Success-Magnetism is not an accomplishment merely; it is a practical power. When rightly developed and used, it controls the subjective self in the concrete work of the objective. The definition of the goal you have been seeking now appears:
Success-magnetism is personal magnetism intelligently multiplied into actual life.
The first duty of man is practical sanity.
Spirituality: Is Your Life History Impeding Your Personal Growth?
So what do I mean by such a garish title?
Well I literally mean that all of the life history that you call you life that you have "stored' as memories in your mind body may be an impediment to your personal growth.
I must qualify here also what I mean by "personal growth" as this means different things to different individuals.
I mean it in the highest sense of the word. That is your growth, or more aptly, your evolvement into who you really are, a Divine Being!
Now what is that you may ask?
Well unfortunately I can only convey that as an experience and would be hard pressed to describe something that at this point you "think" is foreign to you. That would be like trying to explain how a strawberry tastes to you if you had never actually tasted one before.
To help you however I refer you to my many articles here in this ezine on Spirituality and I think you will find there what you are looking for, a small "taste" of your Divine Self. More of this can be had by contacting me directly at the web link below if you feel so inclined.
Having said that I wish to return to the issue of the problem of one's life history.
As I'm sure you will agree, not all of your life has been rosy, correct?
That means that you are carrying within you memories of negative, and in my view toxic memories, that have a definite effect on you.
What is this effect?
Well choose one and recall it in detail and as you do notice how it makes you feel.
You will notice some or all of the following; heaviness, sadness, pain, hurt, grief, dread, anxiety, anger, vulnerability, helplessness, hopelessness, guilt, regret, fear, confusion, meaninglessness, emptiness and so on.
What is all of this doing to you? Well when you are conscious of it you'll notice that it is draining your life energy.
That's the same as saying that it is killing you, isn't it?
When you're not conscious of its still killing you, although now more quickly.
Surprized you with that last statement, didn't I? You probably thought that by being less conscious you'd be feeling less of the pain and therefore that would be better for you.
Well if you look at it closely you'll recognize that in order to keep it "unconscious" i.e. not feel the pain, you need to expend energy. That's your vital life energy!
In other words more of your life energy is needed to keep it unconscious than to keep it conscious!
In either case the effect is that is it killing you.
Is this necessary? How far will all of those personal growth (using your definition here) strategies get you if all of this "history" of yours is draining your vital life energy right in front of your eyes and you're just pretending it isn't even there?
What's worse you probably never even "thought" this was a problem did you? That's because you've been "conditioned" to accept that this life history:
1. Identifies who you are as a human being.
2. Is necessary for you to learn from.
3. It is part of what it means to be a human being.
4. It is a normal aspect of the reality we live in.
5. Defines and is defined by the passage of time which we all accept as a universal phenomenon.
Well if you accept all of those the you'll have to live with the consequence of what that life history is doing to you then i.e. killing you.
Is that what you want?
You didn't know that you even had a choice up until now did you?
Well you most definitely do!
Please read may many articles here in this ezine (especially "We Are Not Our Personalities") and feel free to contact me if you would like to free yourself of this unnecessary and unnatural destiny.
Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being
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Three Ways to Balance Your Life
When your life seems out of control and you've got endless demands tugging at you from all directions, it's easy to feel overwhelmed, fatigued - and just plain stressed!
Believe it or not, balancing your life does not require massive changes. You don't have to quit your job, abandon your family and escape to a remote retreat in order to feel peaceful and happy. In fact, true balance is something that starts WITHIN YOU first and foremost - no matter what else is happening in your outer life circumstances.
Below you'll find three simple ways to begin building a greater sense of inner peace and harmony:
1) Quiet time.
One of the first things we tend to sacrifice when we're busy is our personal time. Instead we devote all of our energy and attention to caring for others, multi-tasking, meeting responsibilities and "being productive." Over time this depletes our energy and we begin to feel more and more burdened by our responsibilities.
To live a more balanced life, quiet time to yourself is CRUCIAL. You may believe that you don't have any time available for yourself, but something amazing happens when you consistently MAKE time; you find yourself feeling happier and more energetic, your focus improves - and you still get plenty done! Just a few minutes spent sitting quietly in meditation or reading a book can do wonders in transforming stress into peace and happiness.
2) Self-care.
Beyond making time for things you enjoy, there are other ways to nurture and love yourself on a daily basis. Getting a full 8 hours of sleep (or as much as you personally need) is a great start, as well as eating nutritious food, exercising daily and speaking kindly to yourself.
Have you ever noticed that when you're really tired or stressed, even the smallest problem can seem like a nightmare? On the other hand, when you're feeling well-rested and centered, you're much better able to handle upsets. Caring for yourself is one sure way to consistently replenish your energy, inner peace and joy - which means you'll have the strength to handle whatever comes your way.
3) Flexibility.
Did you know that one of the biggest causes of stress is rigid expectations? We all do it from time to time; get a mental picture of how our lives "should be" - and get really annoyed when our outer circumstances don't cooperate! One of the biggest gifts you can give yourself is a flexible state of mind. In other words, learn how to detach from unrealistic expectations and go with the flow.
When you have a flexible mind-set, you're able to deal with crises and problems much more easily because you're not working against a preconceived notion of how things "should be". You're able to tap into your creative problem-solving skills and move through challenges without all the drama and frustration. Be like the tree that bends with the breeze - and you're much less likely to break!
These inner changes can make a dramatic difference in your state of well-being, but you may also want to examine your outer life circumstances and see if there are other small changes you can make to help support your inner work.
For example, you might choose to let go of certain obligations that are no longer meaningful or enjoyable to you. Just because you agreed to host weekly meetings for a support group three years ago doesn't mean you have to keep doing it forever - especially if it's become a drain on your time and energy!
Be willing to let go of activities that no longer complement the lifestyle you desire, and you'll create a space for greater fulfillment, joy and peace.
12 Tips for Overcoming Anger and Gaining Peace
Anger appears when one is confronted with frustration, unhappiness or hurt feelings, or when plans don't turn out as desired. It also shows up when coming against opposition or criticism.
Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy, and can hurt your health, spoil your relationships, and cause you to miss opportunities. Getting angry is acting against your best interests.
Things don't always proceed according to plans and expectations. People not always act the way you wish them to act. You may not be always able to be in control of external influences and conditions, but you can certainly learn to control your attitude and reactions. There is no sense of allowing circumstances and people to pull your strings and affect your mind and feelings. You can choose not to let what people say and do affect your moods. You can maintain an inner attitude of emotional and mental detachment, and refuse to allow every minor event play with your feelings and evoke anger.
I often see people getting angry over unimportant and insignificant matters. Some insignificant remark or action, not getting a satisfactory reply to a question or just moodiness are enough to set fire and cause anger, snappy remarks, arguments and even physical fights. This is absolutely unnecessary. Life can be happier without this behavior.
Anger is a negative reaction, and if you wish to progress on the path of self-improvement or spiritual growth you should avoid it as much as possible.
Learning to calm down the restlessness of the mind and gaining peace of mind, is one of the best and most effective methods to overcome anger, and in fact, all negative emotions.
If you are willing to invest the time and energy, you will reap great rewards. Peace of mind will not only help you overcome anger, but also help you overcome anxiety and negative thinking, and enable you to stay calm, tranquil and self possessed in difficult and trying situations.
Peace of mind requires the development of an attitude of emotional and mental detachment, which is of vital importance for overcoming and avoiding anger. It protects you against being too affected by what people think, say or do, and is therefore highly recommended. Detachment is not an attitude of indifference and lack of sensitivity. It is an attitude of common sense and inner strength and leads to peace of mind.
I would like now to suggest a few simple tips to help you manifest some inner detachment and peace of mind, so as to be in a better position to overcome anger.
1. At least once a day, devote several minutes to thinking on how much your life would be better without anger.
2. When you feel anger arising in you, start breathing deeply and slowly several times.
3. You may, instead of breathing deeply, or better still, in addition to it, count slowly from one to ten. This will delay your angry reaction and weaken it.
4. Drinking some water has a calming effect on the body.
5. Try to be more patient, no matter how difficult it might be.
6. Be more tolerant toward people, even toward people you don't like.
7. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. You can disagree with people, but still maintain tact and diplomacy.
8. Choose to react calmly and peacefully in every situation. Try again and again, regardless of how many times you lose control and get angry.
9. Positive thinking makes it easier to disregard remarks and behavior that otherwise could cause anger.
10. Try to manifest at least some self-control, self-discipline and more common sense.
11. Don't take everything too seriously. It is not worth it.
12. Find reasons to laugh more often.
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Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are "Peace of mind in Daily Life", "Will Power and Self Discipline", "Visualize and Achieve" and "Affirmations - Words of Power".
Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.
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What is Personal Growth?
I have been asked many times, what is personal growth? or how can I grow as a person?
Well, I thought maybe I should try and answer this question.
You deepest fear is not that you are inadequate your deepest fear is that you are powerful.
It is the light and not the darkness that most frightens us.
A question you could ask yourself is am I brilliant, gorgeous, talented or fabulous?
The answer is actually, who's to say your not?
There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel unsure around you. You are born to manifest the glory that is within.
It is not in some of us it is in all of us. When you let your light shine you are unconsciously giving other people permission to do the same. When you become liberated from your fears you can liberate others around you.
You need to understand what is important to you.
Each person has a different idea of what it means to have success. Self knowledge is a common goal that will help everyone achieve personal success, so many of us have hangs about someone whose ideas have made them successful, and we loose what is truly important to us. This is completely normal.
You need to realize what is truly important to you. This will be a major step towards achieving personal success.
You should start to recognize your weakness and you should not hide behind them. Once you have realised your true self this can be very liberating you should not discard the rules of the society you live in.
You need to recognize that other people's values are no less important than yours. You should recognize and accept that you live in a society in which certain people and certain behaviours are more suited towards particular tasks. This is another key to opening the doors to personal growth.
So how do you go about realizing what's truly important to you?
How do you recognize your weakness and how do you learn how not to hide behind them?
How do you become balanced?
How do I open that magical door that will show me the way to personal growth and success?
There is no quickie scheme that will make you a successful person. Believing in yourself is a powerful aid in your quest for excellence, but it is not the actual solution. It just helps you to expand your understanding of human nature.
An improved understanding of yourself and others will help you to find, follow or expand your path. An awareness and acceptance of the fact that one person may function more effective than another in a given situation will help you to understand the relevance of personal growth to your life.
You need to attempt to become the master of your own life to become enlightened and empowered. All of us are at different steps on the staircase, or at different paces down the road. We are all beginning the journey and we are doing well.
You must continue to grow if you what to succeed and truly become master of your own light. When you become master you are able to help humanity. The three most important stages of enlightenment are to know yourself, perfect yourself and empower others.
As a potential teacher you must know yourself. If you believe you are greater than you are, then you become arrogant and vain! Or if you believe you are lesser than you are, you cannot help and teach others. You need to become an independent observer of your behaviour. You must step outside of yourself. Begin to look at yourself objectively to see your faults and virtues. Increase the virtues within you and work on changing the faults.
Many people believe that it is loveable to have a few faults. They may think it is alright to be a little lazy or a little impatient. If these same qualities were in a teacher you would be very critical of this. You would not like a teacher to be arrogant, vain selfish, lazy or to anger easily. If you would like to become a teacher of light then you need to begin to truly look at yourself. Begin the process of perfecting yourself.
You will never gain 100% perfection in this life, but you can certainly begin the process. Being courageous enough to truly look at your faults and see how you stop the light from coming in.
Think of yourself as a lighthouse.
A lighthouse stands mighty and proud, with a beautiful light within helping to protect ships at sea from crashing on the rocks. If the windows of the lighthouse are covered then the light cannot shine out. This is the same with you, look at your faults and work on them. Shine your windows and then your own inner light can save others from crashing on the rocks.
Begin to be kinder, more humble but at the same time use the strength within you to work towards the light. Become a source of unconditional love. If you can see patterns in your life that have been destructive in the past, reach deep within and change them. In the future you can teach others how to release themselves from these patterns.
Examine your body, mind, and soul. Work on all three areas to perfect yourself. Begin the process for this is why you have incarnated, so that you can perfect yourself on all levels, allowing you and others a healthy life.
Lynn Claridge is a Psychic Medium and a qualified Crystal Healer. Furthermore, Lynn is the Author of two e-books. "Understanding Your Psychic Ability" available from http://www.newage-alternatives.com and "Crystal Healing for Pleasure or Profit" available from
http://www.crystals-for-healing.com
How To Attract Everything You Desire Effortlessly!
Be Simply Irresistible . . .
How To Attract Everything You Desire Effortlessly!
1. Create an environment that naturally pulls you forward so things like commitment and discipline are optional. Being pulled forward is attractive, pushing forward is not.
2. Over respond to every event. By over responding instead of overacting, you evolve which is very attractive.
3. Build reserves in every area of your life. Having enough is not nearly enough for you to be Irresistible Attractive. Stop running your life on adrenaline.
4. Add value just for the joy of it. When you add value just because you enjoy it, people are naturally attracted to you.
5. Market your talents shamelessly. If you are embarrassed about what you do , you won’t be very attractive.
6. Become irresistible attractive to yourself. How can you attract others if you don’t feel irresistible attractive to yourself?
7. Get a fulfilling life, not just an impressive lifestyle. A great lifestyle is attractive, lifestyles can be seductive.
8. Deliver twice what you promise.When you consistently deliver more than was expected, new customers are drawn to you.
9. Unhook yourself from the future. Attraction works in the present, not in the future.
10. Eliminate delay. Time is expensive and delays are very unattractive.
11. Get your personal needs met, once and for all. If you have unmet needs, you will attract others in the same position. Needs are not optional. Create a Sass!
12. Tolerate nothing. When you put up with something, it costs you. Costs are expensive and very unattractive.
13. Show others how to please you. Don’t make them guess.
14. Endorse your worst weakness and shadow. When you accept and honor the worst part of yourself you are free and more accepting of others.
15. Sensitize yourself. The more you feel, the more you notice and respond to the many subtle opportunities in the present.
16. Perfect your environment. Create an environment that brings out your brilliance versus one that drains you.
17. See how perfect the present really is especially when it is clearly not.
18. Orient exclusively around your values. When you spend your days doing what fulfills you, you are a magnet for attraction.
19. Simplify everything. Abandon the non essentials and leave room for you to attract.
20. Master your craft. Being the best at what you do is the easiest way to become successful.
21. Recognize and tell the truth. The truth is the most attractive thing of all, and it requires skill and awareness.
22. Be more human. When you are genuine, you are attractive.
Are You A Coaching Candidate?
1. Do you spend your day putting out fires?
2. Do you have any concerns about your business running at maximum profitability?
3. Do you run your business on the edge?
4. Do the same problems continually resurface?
5. Do you have difficulty finding someone you trust who can give you an objective viewpoint and bounce ideas off of?
6. Is your business running you?
7. Do you find that you are unable to make the most of all the opportunities in your life?
8. Do you experience roller coaster highs and lows in your business?
9. Do you have a lone ranger lifestyle?
10. Do you allow your goals and purpose to get sidetracked?
11. Do you lack having a clear, measurable action plan to fulfill your goals?
12. Do you lack structure?
13. Do you lack inner fulfillment?
14. Do you spend most of your day working "in" your business instead of "on" it?
15. Are you a workaholic?
16. Are you experiencing a lack of balance in your life and business?
17. Are you committed to growing yourself and your company?
18. Are you coachable? (Are you willing to hear and act on another's person's viewpoint?)
19. Do you lack a clear financial plan for your future?
20. Are you willing to be truthful and restore your integrity?
* If you answered yes to more than three of these questions you can benefit from a coach.
Questions A Coach May Ask You:
* What five opportunities are you leaving on the table?
* How might you sabotage our professional relationship?
* How have you been motivated in the past to reach difficult goals or make difficult decisions? How can we best utilize that motivation now?
* How would you do this differently if you were willing to let it be easy?
* What would happen if you showed up ten times more bolder this week in every aspect of your life?
* What are the 10 things you are tolerating or putting up with that are preventing you from performing at your best?
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Why You Can't Have What You Want.
The three steps to manifesting all the things you desire are simple steps most of us will not be able to accomplish consciously.
Why is it some people who seem to be less deserving than you, have it all? Abundance, friends, and relationships keep coming their way while you keep struggling to make ends meet. You know you deserve their abundance, but it seems unattainable. You're smart, educated, deserving, and you work hard-what is it they know that you do not?
As simple and unrealistic as it may seem-the one and only reason they have it is because they know they can. And they know they can have more anytime they wish. It is this thought separating them from you.
Whether they were born into it, or worked for it-they all have the same knowingness-they can have it and more. This knowingness is why only five percent of the population controls 95% of the world's riches. Although the only difference in having and not having is within the knowledge you can have it-there are ten good reasons you will be able to come up with that will support your belief "you can not have it."
1. Don't know what you really want.
2. Too difficult to focus on your desire
3. Easily distracted by others things.
4. Want to control the process.
5. You believe you do not have the power to change your circumstances.
6. You do not deserve.
7. It is not God's will.
8. It's too simple.
9. It is selfish.
10. You just cannot have anything you want.
From the time you were old enough to understand what your parents and others were telling you, you were taught these ten destructive beliefs. It is within the reality of these beliefs that you are guided in what you create and the circumstances of your life-I can prove it right now!
Close your eyes for a moment and imagine you have the perfect lover or companion sitting beside you holding out five one-million dollar bills to you. Now open your eyes and discover there is no one there and no money-why not? Listen to yourself coming up with all the reasons it doesn't work that way, and you will quickly discover why it is you did not get what you imagined.
Now this may sound simple and childish, but it is your perceptions, your convictions, and knowing which make these things impossible for you. The truth is, you do manifest or create all the circumstances of your life just by imagining it. For most all of us it is done on a subconscious level so we take no responsibility for it.
That knowingness can be raised to a conscious level with a little practice and willingness. The first step to making it happen is in accepting you can do it-and it's all you really have to do. Nothing else matters-nothing else converts energy or thought to matter.
In all you can imagine or dream of, simply know you already have it, even if you have to lie to yourself for a period of time. Picture it, focus on what it is you wish to experience and you will bring it into your experience-you will have it as your own.
You will always get what it is you truly desire-desire is the key word. You can never have what you want, but you always get what you desire. Be careful as your thoughts will most often fool you. Most people for instance will desire something (a thing) because it is their belief it will bring them happiness. If happiness is what you truly desire then you do no need to focus on a thing-focus on the happiness and it will be yours and it will be expressed in a happy way.
If it is your desire to experience having or doing a thing-that desire will also be made manifest, but you may not experience the happiness you said you desired. Your thoughts will most often betray you and it is your words which command the spirit to create what you desire. Be ever so careful in your choice of words.
It may take a second, a minute, a day, or years to change your thought patterns, but once you do-you will know you can have what you desire on demand-in the blink of an eye-on demand.
About the Author: Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. A published author, a student of NLP, ordained minister, New Age Light Worker, Teacher and Phenomenologist. Roy's books and articles are thought provoking, and designed to empower your imagination, and take you to places you would never have thought about.
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Self Improvement And Success Go Hand In Hand More Than You Think...
How do you know if a person is willing to attain self improvement? This is a question with no definite answer. It will all depend on the individual.
Many people have goals, dreams or ambitions but do not know how to go about achieving them. They may have thought about what would make up self improvement and their ideal life, but have no idea how to even begin to make the plans and take the actions required to make them a reality.
Some people have a vague idea on how to go about self improvement. These are the ones that believe that if only they had a better job, or had been given better opportunities, or met the love of their life, or whatever else, everything would be fine and they would be happy.
They feel that their happiness or lack of happiness is decided by external factors and their thoughts and actions are of little consequence.
Some believe that if only they had more money they could have whatever they want and be on their way to self improvement.
They may have spent little time thinking about what they actually want from life, and do not really believe there is anything they can do to create their fuzzy version of utopia anyway, apart from buying more lottery tickets.
Other people do not even know what they actually want from their lives and may even have little idea what would really makes them happy. They seem to just drift from day to day, week to week, month to month, and year to year, and do little more than just about get by.
They may have seemingly secure jobs and be earning enough to live relatively comfortable lives. They seem happy enough and have no great ambition to achieve anything more from their lives than they currently have.
Is self improvement important?
The reality is that throughout our lives we are all constantly growing and developing. Circumstances make us grow and develop, even if we do not make the conscious decision to do so.
Up to a certain age, we learn through formal education and we continue to learn through our experiences for the rest of our lives. We have to learn and grow to deal with everything that life throws at us. We all have to go through self improvement.
Modern life moves at a dramatically faster pace than at anytime in history. For anyone living in modern society there are more opportunities to do anything that you want to do with your life than ever before.
But there is also more competition than ever before, and ever changing technology means that there really are few, if any ‘jobs for life’ anymore. It is now normal not only to change jobs quite often throughout our working lives, but even to completely change careers and industries.
Because the workplace is so competitive, people who are ambitious and hungry for success know they need to learn new skills and knowledge to keep ahead of the pack. To attain this, self improvement is needed.
These are the people that will be most likely to keep their jobs, or progress within their chosen field, or that will be readily employable in different organizations or industries.
A commitment to self improvement and personal growth may well be the deciding factor in how anyone’s future will turn out.
Meditations: Using Meditation to Master The Art Of Success
Quick question before we start, please raise your hand if you have achieved everything you wanted to achieve in your life. Let me ask you another question … do you have a passion to succeed or to achieve something? Are you programmed to succeed? Would you like to know how?
There are many theories that have been written by experts, historians and psychologists across the world and also across time on success but the one thing every single one of them always defines as the secret to success is that you must believe you are going to succeed and that you can achieve what you want to achieve and that you are prepared to continue to have a go and keep having a go, learning each time, till you achieve what it is that you want to achieve.
If you ever get a chance to read a book by Napoleon Hill called Think and Grow Rich it is worth reading. The author, Napoleon Hill wrote this book back in 1937 and he was basically looking for a formula that anyone could follow to achieve success and in particular riches on an obscene scale. One of the 13 Secrets that he outlines in his book is that all millionaires and in this era billionaires know is the power of Autosuggestion. This was the term that was bandied around in the 1930's era and essentially autosuggestion means the reprogramming of your mind to believe something so much that your mind automatically pushes you towards success and in the case of Think and Grow Rich, obscene wealth.
In today's hip culture, the guru's of the self-help industry refer to the power of autosuggestion more as affirmations than the autosuggestion term however they are essentially the same. The bottom line is this, for you to succeed you have to believe that you can succeed and you have to train your mind to succeed and to think successfully.
Most people at this point and I are sure you are one of them, will go, yeah right what a load of hippy talk. Well maybe, but let us look at few facts. Let us look at some of the most successful people in the world and take someone who I am a great fan of Lance Armstrong and look closely at what he has achieved. Lance Armstrong is a leader and a hero in the cycling community. After being diagnosed with testicular cancer which had spread to his lungs and brain he fought this disease whole heartedly and not only beat the disease, but he used the power of his mind to go onto win the Tour de France, not once, not twice but seven times.
There is no way in the world that this man could beat such a debilitating disease unless he had programmed his mind to say, I will beat this disease and get my life back and exceed what I had achieved before. In fact, going onto win the Tour de France seven times is a feat never before achieved in the history of the race.
Knowing this information if you were faced with absolute adversity what would you do? Would you just simply stop, give up and die or would you keep fighting? Would you beat your adversity and then stop, or would you push your goals further out there to achieve more?
If you want to be successful, you must train your mind to be successful. You must have an overwhelming belief or faith in yourself that you can do it, even when everyone around you is telling you that you can not do it. The key to this success is to program you for success.
When I was doing a business course a few months ago one of the tasks that we were given was to write down ten things that we wanted to achieve. We were asked to identify specifically what those ten things are in business we wanted to achieve. The sort of items people wrote down –
1. I am going to make $200,000 cash profit this year
2. I am going to buy a new Mercedes
3. I am going to buy a jet ski
4. I am going to raise $500,000 to build an orphanage in Laos
5. I am going to buy the block Lot 4 Coral Coast Road in Townsville Australia
6. I am going to take my family to Las Vegas and have $5,000 spending money
7. I am going to raise the $4,000 to buy a Vintage Plane for the RAAF Museum
8. I am going to win the Archery at the next Commonwealth Games
9. I am going to learn to fly a plane
10. I am going to hike up Mount Kosciusko
What people were then told was to right these elements down onto a sheet of paper and put them up where you could see them every day where you can read them and remind yourself of what you are going to achieve. Essentially what they told us to do is to follow the third secret to success identified by Napoleon Hill called Autosuggestion.
However, what I noticed with all the people in course was that over a period of time, they began to give up. They did not read their ten items every day and they did not affirm that they would achieve what they wanted each day. Part of the reason this occurs is simply because the hustle, bustle and stress of everyday life and reality take over and your mind is cluttered with the stress. When the course finished they did not have the people in the course to continually speak with them to see if they were sticking to their ten things they wanted to achieve.
Look ask any educator in the world, if you are stressed when trying to learn something, you will never learn the material as well as somebody who is not stressd. Why … because a mind that is not stressed and cluttered will allow you to absorb the information more effectively than somebody who does not and this leads me to how Meditation is one of the secret tools to success.
Meditation on its own will NOT bring you success. The role of meditation in the art of success is to bring your mind to a point of calm where it can absorb all the material to help you succeed and in particular, so that you can ingrain into your mind the affirmations of what you are going to achieve.
The first step in using meditation to help you succeed is to learn to meditate to eliminate the stress. Before trying to address anything else you must learn to relax and be calm and to clear your mind. That is, your mind must be free from clutter, worry, concerns and anything else that may stop you from programming your mind to succeed.
There are many meditations that will help you in overcoming stress such as the breathing meditation technique, stillness meditation technique and the numbers meditation technique. Each of these techniques will teach you how to achieve focus and calm during your meditation session.
Once you have mastered those techniques, you can then focus on your affirmations or autosuggestions each day of what you are going to achieve. The Buddhists use sacred phrases in their meditations to help them become better people on their journey towards achieving enlightenment. You can use the affirmations or ten things you want to achieve in exactly the same way. By reflecting on the ten things you want to achieve during meditation, you are reinforcing what you want to achieve in the way of success and ingraining in a clear mind these affirmations or autosuggestions, which means you will maintain your focus to achieve these ten things even when you are challenged by what is going on in your day. When you start using this technique over a period of time, you will be amazed how your mind will say to you, "Hey, you are off focus on what you want to achieve get back on focus".
I recommend that for meditation to work effectively that you spend no less than 20 minutes in the morning and night meditating on the 10 things you must achieve. The reason that I recommend meditating twice a day is that you need to be reflecting on your affirmations for a minimum of 20 minutes a day, however most people find that it takes them about ten minutes of their meditation time before they are truly calm, when they are first starting out. You will find though as time goes on and you meditate regularly that you are able to get to a state of calm a lot quicker than when you first start out.
Look the bottom line is this, if you want to succeed, you must believe inside of yourself that you can achieve whatever success you want. It is totally up to you as to what you want to achieve and only you can do it. Remember, that every great achievement in the world started out as a single thought that one person believed in enough to what to achieve it. To stay on the path to success, meditation will help you to control the clutter and the stress the world can pile on you on a day-to-day basis in your mind.
About the Author: If you are interested in reading the Think and Grow Rich book by Napoleon Hill and learning the thirteen secrets to success, it is available at our website as a PDF as well as an MP3 Audio version. The best type of Meditation Music is Baroque Music played at 60 beats per minute and this music is also available at our website.
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Loneliness: toothache of the soul
Loneliness is one of life's most miserable experiences. Everyone feels lonely at times, but is there a message for us in loneliness? Is there a way that we can turn it into something positive?
Sometimes loneliness is a temporary condition that lifts in a few hours or a couple days. But when we're burdened with this emotion for weeks, months, or even years, it's definitely telling us something.
In a sense, loneliness is like a toothache: It's a warning signal that something is wrong. And like a toothache, if left unattended, it usually gets worse. Our first response to loneliness may be to self-medicate--to try home remedies to make it go away.
Busyness is a common treatment.
We think that if we fill our life with so many activities that we don't have time to think about our loneliness, we'll be cured. But busyness misses the message. It's like trying to heal a toothache by taking our mind off it. Busyness is a distraction, not a cure.
Buying is another favorite therapy.
Maybe if we purchase something new, if we "reward" ourselves, we'll feel better. And surprisingly, we do feel better--but only for a short while. Buying things to address our loneliness is like an anesthetic. Sooner or later the numbing effect wears off. Then the pain comes back as strong as ever. Buying can also compound our problems with a mountain of credit card debt.
Bed is a third response to loneliness.
We believe that intimacy is what we need, so we make an unwise choice with sex. After we come to our senses, we're horrified to discover that this attempt at a cure not only makes loneliness worse, it also makes us feel desperate and cheap. This is the false cure of our modern culture, which promotes sex as a game, as recreation. This response to loneliness almost always ends in feelings of alienation and regret.
The real message, the real cure.
If all of these approaches don't work, what does? Is there a cure for loneliness? Is there some secret elixir that will fix this toothache of the soul?
We need to begin with a correct interpretation of this warning signal. Loneliness tells us that we have a relationship problem. While that may seem obvious, there's more to it than just surrounding yourself with people. Doing that is the same as busyness, but using crowds instead of activities.
The answer to loneliness is not the quantity of your relationships, but the quality. This is a distasteful cure for us, as dreaded as taking your toothache to a dentist. Satisfying, meaningful relationships take time and work. We're afraid to open up. We're afraid to let another person open up to us. Past hurts have made us distrustful. Friendship requires giving, but it also requires taking, and many of us would rather be independent. But the persistence of our loneliness should tell us that that kind of stubbornness hasn't worked either.
If we have the courage to build worthwhile relationships, eventually we find that this is a cure that works. Our risks are rewarded. We find someone who understands and cares, and we find others whom we understand and care about as well. Like a visit to the dentist, this cure turns out to be not only final, but much less painful than we feared.
About the Author: Jack Zavada helps people triumph over loneliness, anxiety, and fear at his web site www.inspiration-for-singles.com.
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Past Life Regression
Past Life Regression and Business may seem unlikely companions but following a rather bizarre experience last year I found myself dressing differently, feeling differently and, surprisingly, making money differently as well.
I’d been seeing someone to help me get over some personal problems I was having and during the course of one of the sessions, some strange images came to mind, as I lay relaxing on the treatment couch. Starting out as a young man from happy family background, I ‘saw myself’ setting out in life as some kind of Knights’ Apprentice.
I’m not sure of the exact date but the ‘medieval’ period seemed fitting. Anyway, I followed my way through the life of this other ‘me’ as he grew up, progressed and gradually lost his way, until I eventually witnessed his/my demise on the battlefield.
I’m skipping some of the details here to save space, but at the end of this ‘life’ I actually felt ‘now’ the feelings of guilt and remorse over his/my actions back then. As I felt and released these feelings, it seems they actually went from my current life too.
Up until this point I’d been wearing a black suit to work but soon after this regression experience, I just couldn’t wear it any more – it seemed pretentious, fancy-dress-like and unnecessary – so I began to dress more casually – jeans even, working in probably the smartest and most prestigious location in the country.
But I suddenly felt really cool with it – calm, relaxed and at ease more than ever – but also ideas about giving up struggle (battle?) started to actually make sense and sink in at last. So my business took a nice boost too and has pretty much continued that way ever since, allowing for a few ups and downs here and there, which are to be expected.
Could it be that I no longer needed my (black) suit of armour? Could it be that I’d finally given up the battling and struggling in my life? Could it be that I’d finally learned a lesson I’d struggled to learn several hundred years ago?
Who knows? All I know is that I felt different after this experience and I didn’t really have to ‘do’ anything to make it happen – it just did.
But this is not uncommon in the field of Past Life Regression. Many people experience remarkable changes in their life following such experiences, as you may have read about in Brian Weiss’s ‘Many Lives, Many Masters’, but what most people don’t realise is that a Past Life Regression is actually fairly easy to achieve and nowhere near as scary as what most people imagine.
A while ago I produced a CD/downloadable regression, available from www.mypastlife.com, which has produced fantastic results so far. If you look on the website, you’ll see a couple of prime examples, one of which is from an author who suddenly realised that the character she had been trying to write about for many years, was actually herself in a past life.
You can see her full experience here: http://www.mypastlife.com/html/who_i_was_in_my_past_life.html
If you’re interested in finding out who you were in a Past Life – either in answer to some of life’s questions, or simply as a bit of fun, I can highly recommend it. You don’t have to believe wholeheartedly and you can analyse as much as you want later on – but it’s usually a fascinating experience that you’ll remember for the rest of this life, at least.
About the Author: Andrew Parr is a professional hypnotherapist with over 15 years one to one client experience - that's about 11,000 hours. He is based on London's Harley Street, where he deals with people from all over the world with a wide range of requests. He has a personal interest in Past Life Regression and metaphysics, and is the author of "Successful Private Practice", a highly acclaimed guide for natural health practitioners
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Easy Self Discipline Tricks
What is self discipline? It is the ability to control your behavior, to motivate yourself to do the things you should be doing and not do things you shouldn't be doing. Willpower may be considered an element of it, but sometimes trying to "force" yourself to do something just makes things worse. Learn to associate negative feelings with an activity, and it just gets more difficult to do, and less likely that you will do it.
Is there an easier route to self discipline? Actually, there are many. Here are some of the most effective self discipline tricks and techniques. Why not try them today?
1. Start the process. Suppose you are procrastinating about doing your taxes. You feel stressed when you think about doing your tax return. Then don't think about it! Once sufficient thought has been given to any project, more thought just creates more stress. The negative feelings that develop make it harder and harder to force yourself to do what needs to be done. You feel like you have no self discipline.
Action is the cure for this. In the case of the tax return, just lay out the forms where you can work on them later. Later, just gather all the materials and put them with the forms. The next day, do just one form, and then another. Whatever the task is, you can find enough motivation for some small step. Training your mind to take that first step as soon as you think of it. The next steps, and so the whole project become easier once you start.
2. Enjoy what you are doing. If you have ever stayed up all night talking about something interesting, you know what power the mind has over the body. How easily we put off sleep when we are motivated by a passionate discussion. It doesn't take much willpower to keep doing something when you are enjoying it, and that gives us another key to self discipline.
When you enjoy what you are doing you are energized. Willpower goes up and down with energy levels, so play energetic music, move around, laugh, and look for ways to enjoy whatever project you are working on. The more you associate good feelings with a task, the easier it is to discipline yourself to do it.
3. Reward yourself. Break a task into s few steps, and give yourself a reward when you complete each step. This could be a bowl of ice cream, watching your favorite movie, or just relaxing for a few minutes. Reward yourself with a pat on the back too. When you recognize your successes, large and small, the possibilities become more real to you, and more likely to be repeated.
4. Become more aware of how you work. Suppose that piece of cake calls to you, or that television takes your attention away from your more important work. It can be hard to resist temptation, right? Stronger willpower is a nice theory, but here is a simpler solution: stop standing in front of the cake! Turn off that television!
This is an easy lesson to understand, but try to train yourself to apply it habitually. You shouldn't keep beer in the house if you don't want to drink it. You shouldn't go alone to the single's bars if you want to maintain a faithful marriage. You should just stay away from people that lead you to trouble.
Self discipline doesn't mean being immune to temptation. Develop the willpower to say no, if you wish. While you are doing that, though, why not also have the wisdom to avoid temptation? Learn where your resistance is low, and don't put yourself in those situations. Doesn't this make more sense than fighting useless battles with yourself?
Fighting with yourself is no way to develop self discipline. It's better to learn about yourself. How are you energized? What motivates you? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Why not learn about yourself, and start using what you learn to make the behaviors you want easier. That's smarter self discipline.
About the Author: Steve Gillman has been studying brainpower and related topics for years. For more on
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You Might Be Wasting Your Time Setting Goals
Why do some people achieve their goals and others don't? The answer to this question is one of the most important concepts to understand if you are serious about becoming successful.
People get the goals that are aligned to their subconscious expectations and they don't get the goal that are contrary to their subconscious expectation.
What do I mean by expectation?
One of the jobs of your subconscious mind is to keep your life "on track" but what is it keeping it on track to? We each have, in our subconscious mind, a model of what life should be like for us. This model is called your expectation.
Where do your expectations come from?
Your expectations comes from the sum total of all your life experiences to date. That includes every thing that you have done, heard, said, read, seen, and experienced. The stronger the emotional impact of an experience or the greater the repetition of an experience, the greater the contribution it makes to your expectation.
How does your expectation influence your life?
Your subconscious uses your expectation as the guide to decide what is "normal" for you. This is a very important function as our survival depends on our ability to behave consistently. This goes right back through our species history all the way to the caveman days. If our caveman ancestor did not possess a drive toward consistency then he would never have learned how to successfully hunt or gather food or how to reliably avoid being eaten by predators.
We live a very different life today to the life lived by the cavemen but our brains are almost identical. Our subconscious still looks to help us be consistent and it does that by building our expectation and keeping us true to it.
If your expectations are subconscious then how do you know what they are?
It is very easy to tell what your subconscious expectations are; just look at your life. What you have and who you are is the reflection of your subconscious expectation.
How do you change your expectations?
We've all experienced what it is like to go against our subconscious expectations. It is usually referred to as being outside our comfort zone. The feeling can range from mild discomfort up to extreme distress depending on how far outside our comfort zone we are.
Successfully changing an unwanted expectation is a two step process.
Step 1: Scramble the unwanted expectation.
There are many powerful techniques that are used to scramble unwanted expectations. I'll give you a simple exercise that combines two of the techniques.
Firstly hold in your mind an image of you experiencing the unwanted expectation. Then fade that image so the colors are duller, the image is blurred any sounds associated with that image are distorted and unintelligible. Then imagine that image being broken up and rearranged like mixing up pieces of a jigsaw puzzle.
The more scrambled you make the image the weaker the subconscious pattern becomes.
Step 2: Now you need to immediately install a new expectation.
The best way to install a new expectation is by using affirmations. Give yourself an affirmation for each characteristic of the new expectation that you want to develop. Make sure that the affirmation is in positive, present moment language.
Repetition increases the power of these techniques.
If you repeat the scrambling exercise each day and follow it immediately with the affirmations then soon you will have your subconscious expectation lining up with your conscious goals and then achieving your goals will be easier than ever before.
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Hypnosis Is A Real Viable Option
One thing that I really like to do here in my Oxfordshire hypnotherapy clinic is teach my clients the art of Self Hypnosis. This is so that they will be able to go away without a CD or a book and actually be able to practice Hypnosis wherever they may be. So even if they are in a busy airport lounge, at home or even in a stressful situation they will have something that will help them to feel more comfortable and relaxed and also to allow them to take control over the way that they want to feel.
One of my key sayings is that we should live by design