Happiness - 13 Steps To Maximum Happiness!
1. Set a goal and achieve it:
By setting a desired end in mind, it allows one to be able to concentrate fully on achieving the goal. When one goes through the process of gaining his/her targets, the person becomes satisfied and happy. It is a great feeling.
2. Smile everyday:
Having a smile on the face and trying to be angry is difficult. By smiling, it influences our state of mind. It makes one feel good and others who seen the smile feel good as well.
3. Positive mindset and attitude:
What we focus, expands. Same goes with our attitude and perception in things. Adopt a positive mindset and look at the ‘good’ things. With a positive attitude, makes the best out of everything, don’t focus on the can’ts, focus on the cans. You be happier that way.
4. Relax and enjoy life:
Life is hectic and fast paced in this modernize era. We need to learn and take time out to adore ourselves. Meanwhile, learn to enjoy life and have fun at the same time. Relax our mind give us a enjoyable feeling.
5. Do what you love:
We always have something that we love to do and whenever we are able to do it, we feel great. However, sometime, it is difficult to pursue the things that we enjoy, but we can learn to love the things we do and be happy.
6. Be your true self:
Stop putting a mask on your face when you walk out of the house, it’s tiring. Be true to your inner heart. Buy things that you really like but do not overspend. Learn to accept things as some are not within our control.
7. Be a student and learn new things:
The world is our teacher and everyone around us will be giving us lessons in some ways or another. Have a learning heart and learn from failures/mistakes and your life will be better and happier.
8. Giving:
The ability to give is a great feeling. When we have the luxury of giving others who are less fortunate, we feel happy as we are helping them.
9. Healthy lifestyle:
Health is very important on our life. Having a healthy lifestyle is a perfect platform to build our happiness. Without health, is almost impossible to be really happy.
10. Wish the best for others and mean it:
Don’t be selfish and only care for yourself. Wishing the best for others and they will in turn wish the best for you. You feel better and happy for them too.
11. Self control:
Discipline is needed if you want to achieve something; it is the same case for having happiness. There are some must dos and some must not. We need to self control in order to complete the task.
12. Appreciate the world:
Thank God in whichever religion you are faithful in. Life is short and we must learn to appreciate the world. Blaming others do not make us happier.
13. Good friends and companion:
With good friends and a good relationship, you should be happy!
By: Jackson Tan
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Jackson Tan is an University student who wants to promote and spreads the word of HAPPINESS to the whole world. He believes that everyone can be Happy as long as they choose to. For more free information on Happiness, go to projecth.blogspot.com/ This article is free for republishing by visitors provided the resource link is retained.
Happiness – Be Happy Now And Forever 2 Simple Tips
I was listening to the radio today and heard a couple of songs that made me think about the meaning of happiness.
I thought I would share the two simple tips that came from these songs – that can make ANYONE happy if they listen to them.
You don’t have to listen to the songs, but understand their meaning and you will be happy now and forever.
Let’s look at these 2 tips and the blessing of happiness we can all enjoy in life.
1. Happiness is a choice
The first point to make is that happiness is a choice in life - you are not born happy, just as you are not born sad.
Happiness is a choice that we all can make and it’s all about having the right attitude.
The first song is by a little known English comedian and singer Ken Dodd - called simply “happiness”.
Some of the words go as follows:
“Happiness, happiness the greatest gift that I possess I thank the lord for happiness”
We should all thank god.
Happiness is not just a word it’s a character trait we are all born with and we should all take advantage of it – its there you just need to reach out and happiness is yours.
We just have to get the right mindset and we can be happy for now and forever.
The point that is vital to understand if you are to achieve true happiness which leads me onto my next song.
2. Be happy despite.
All that life can throw at you which brings me to my next song by Bobby McFerrin called “Don’t worry be happy” The lyric I Look is
“Here is a little song I wrote
you might want to sing it note for note
don’t worry be happy
in every life we have some trouble
When you worry you make it double
don’t worry, be happy”.
We all have troubles in life and we all face adversity in some shape or form – but it is how we view these problems that is critical in achieving happiness.
Many people constantly compare themselves to those who are better off or have more luck in life than them and remain sad due to envy.
However, there are others that take setbacks and adversity in their stride and learn from them and take the positive.
Most people think of people who are better off than them but look at it another way - there are probably millions or even billions of people worse off than you.
People are starving, people are ill, people have their human rights abused, but believe it or not, many of these people are happier than others who have far more than them in life.
A great example of someone we all know who had everything and had is life changed when he was paralyzed from the waste down, was actor Christopher Reeve.
Did he feel sorry for himself?
No he didn’t!
He devoted his life to helping others, vowing to walk again and was an inspiration to all who came into contact with him.
While he lost his capacity to walk, he was still happy with the other aspects of his life including the work he was able to do and the love and support he received from family and friends.
So do you want to be happy or sad? It’s your choice:
“When you worry
Your face will frown
And that will bring everybody down
So don't worry, be happy (now).....
God gave us the gift of happiness and it’s up to us if we accept it or not, achieving happiness is really that simple.
By: kelly Price
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Don't Shoot the Messenger
“Whenever you have truth it must be given with love, or the message and the messenger will be rejected,” - Mahatma Gandhi.
In the previous article I described relationship anchoring - how a few seemingly common sense reactions can destroy even the best of relationships, and how by timing your reactions just a little differently you can easily turn things around. Today I continue the topic of creating extraordinary relationships by examining something that happens to all of us every day, yet something that only rarely people are skilled at - communicating negative emotions well.
Think of the last time Someone did Something that made you feel bad, and how you expressed your feelings. Did you get the emotional support you wanted, did you resolve it peacefully or did you get into a fight? Even if you believe that someone slighted you and made you feel bad (this line of thinking - "(s)he made me feel bad" - is a perversion of reality that I will talk about in the next article), it is still your responsibility to communicate skillfully how you feel. The worst kind of strategy you can use is to blow up and psychologically punch your "offender" (weren't you just yesterday saying how much you love her/him?)
Some simple examples when this happens include one partner coming home late from work, the other feeling upset. Or one leaving the bed unmade, the other feeling angry. Or one being busy, the other feeling uncared for. Or one flirting, the other feeling jealous. And millions of other everyday emotional disturbances.
Of course, it is important to speak your mind, to let people know how their behaviors affect you, especially if you are in a close relationship with them. Otherwise, if you repress your emotions, they slowly get built up inside, until you explode (and your relationship together with them). But, if you never learned how to communicate your feelings well, it is very easy to put people on defensive (or sometimes offensive) by blaming them.
The thing is, because most people's identities are not developed enough to withstand an attack, they react by throwing up mental shields to protect their selfs. Once their mental shields are up, they reject all of your words, even if they are appropriate. What follows is basically an escalation war, typically a lose-lose proposition. Example:
- "You are late again, we are going to miss our appointment."
- "Again? When was the last time I was late? You always exaggerate!"
- "No I don't. Remember..."
So, how do you get the message across without being shot as the messenger? The technique is deviously simple - instead of attacking the person because of their behavior, describe how you feel because of the problem that you foresee. In other words, think of it this way - there are three elements here at work: their behavior (e.g. being late), the problem that you foresee (e.g. missing appointment) and your emotional state (e.g. feeling worried). Blaming connects the first two elements together, i.e. behavior to problem, to create an attack (look at the example above again). Instead, skillful communicators use the technique that connects the second two elements together, i.e. problem to emotional state. Example:
- "I feel worried, because I am afraid we might miss our appointment."
- "Yes, sorry, I got stuck in traffic. Let me change really quick and we'll go."
Totally different interaction focused on finding solutions. Of course, it is still valuable to address lateness if it's a recurring patterns and if it's important enough. That can be done later once the emotions have subsided and you re-created strong rapport. A simple rule is to discuss differences and disagreements only AFTER you have great rapport, NEVER before.
Test this new strategy for communicating how you feel, and you will see first-hand just how much difference it makes in establishing a harmonious relationship. In the next article, I will describe the what and the how of blaming, and point out how the language gives your thoughts away to observant listeners.
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- Arman Darini, Ph.D.
About the Author: Arman Darini, Ph.D. is the director of Holographic University, the author of weekly Tips for Creating an Extraordinary and Meaningful Life, and a certified international NLP Trainer. As the leader of a dynamic team of Life Trainers and Coaches, Arman's motto is "I don't believe in your limitations". To learn more about Arman, visit ArmanDarini.com
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