Happiness - 13 Steps To Maximum Happiness!
1. Set a goal and achieve it:
By setting a desired end in mind, it allows one to be able to concentrate fully on achieving the goal. When one goes through the process of gaining his/her targets, the person becomes satisfied and happy. It is a great feeling.
2. Smile everyday:
Having a smile on the face and trying to be angry is difficult. By smiling, it influences our state of mind. It makes one feel good and others who seen the smile feel good as well.
3. Positive mindset and attitude:
What we focus, expands. Same goes with our attitude and perception in things. Adopt a positive mindset and look at the ‘good’ things. With a positive attitude, makes the best out of everything, don’t focus on the can’ts, focus on the cans. You be happier that way.
4. Relax and enjoy life:
Life is hectic and fast paced in this modernize era. We need to learn and take time out to adore ourselves. Meanwhile, learn to enjoy life and have fun at the same time. Relax our mind give us a enjoyable feeling.
5. Do what you love:
We always have something that we love to do and whenever we are able to do it, we feel great. However, sometime, it is difficult to pursue the things that we enjoy, but we can learn to love the things we do and be happy.
6. Be your true self:
Stop putting a mask on your face when you walk out of the house, it’s tiring. Be true to your inner heart. Buy things that you really like but do not overspend. Learn to accept things as some are not within our control.
7. Be a student and learn new things:
The world is our teacher and everyone around us will be giving us lessons in some ways or another. Have a learning heart and learn from failures/mistakes and your life will be better and happier.
8. Giving:
The ability to give is a great feeling. When we have the luxury of giving others who are less fortunate, we feel happy as we are helping them.
9. Healthy lifestyle:
Health is very important on our life. Having a healthy lifestyle is a perfect platform to build our happiness. Without health, is almost impossible to be really happy.
10. Wish the best for others and mean it:
Don’t be selfish and only care for yourself. Wishing the best for others and they will in turn wish the best for you. You feel better and happy for them too.
11. Self control:
Discipline is needed if you want to achieve something; it is the same case for having happiness. There are some must dos and some must not. We need to self control in order to complete the task.
12. Appreciate the world:
Thank God in whichever religion you are faithful in. Life is short and we must learn to appreciate the world. Blaming others do not make us happier.
13. Good friends and companion:
With good friends and a good relationship, you should be happy!
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To Love or Not to Love?
Have you ever fallen in love with two different persons at the same time? Falling in love with two different persons whom both have the same feeling for you too? Well, there is actually nothing wrong with that. In fact I would say that it is something very normal, sometimes even falling for more than two persons for some.
We are afterall human beings, creatures of great emotions. It is just natural for one to develop a liking for the opposite sex, especially when the both are getting along very well. Sometimes, it is just so hard for us to control our feeling and nevertheless, it has always been human nature to be greedy. It is always good to be able to have the best of both worlds isn’t it? But well, things are usually just not possible. At the end of the day, you just have to make your choice, to decide for yourself, your one and only love whom that person to be.
To love or not to love, it is your choice. Think of it this way. In our path of life, we are always faced with choices. Choices that we have to make decisions over; decisions that will affect our life. At circumstances, even having to make immediate decision on the spot, decisions concerning of life and death. Sometimes we made the right decision and sometimes the wrong. But no matter what our decisions might have brought so far; we accepted them, didn’t we?
That is life. There is not way the world is going to stop moving just for you. To turn left or to turn right, to move forward or to turn back, you just have to make up your mind. I should believe that you will not choose to be stuck at the cross junction for your whole life?
Well, a game of chances and uncertainties life has nevertheless always been. If you never play you can never win. You have just got to make your choice, to decide where to place your bet. You can of course choose to give up, not to risk your bet. You always have your choice. Life is just so full of choices, remember? But well, will you later regret giving up that chance when you have it?
The same goes for love. Between the both, you just got to decide whom you really like more. Well, having choices is always better than not having any at all, right? I should also believe that you are not going to give up that chance of even placing your bet? I know it is going to be hard but do just give yourself sometime. Follow where your heart goes. Between the both, there is definitely one whom you will actually like more.
Ok, just picture this scenario; there are this two musical concert, both a once in a lifetime concert. Missing it, you will never get the chance to see it again. You have been dying to catch the shows all these while. However for such a coincidence, they are been held at the same timing on the same day. Again, I suppose you will not just give up the chance of catching both shows altogether? Between the two, you will definitely choose one right?
Finally, to get to fully enjoy the show, which you had decided upon, you just got to forget about that disappointment from missing the other show. But well, more often than not, once you found yourself in the musical concert, chances are you will be totally captured by that spectacular ambience, enjoying yourself so much, totally forgotten about any disappointment that you earlier had.
Now where we are discussing about love, it is just the same. Many at times, we just can’t bear to give up on what we already have, struggling so hard within ourselves. In the end, we might jollywell end up with nothing at all. In life, we gain some we lose some. It’s no use holding on so hard to something, which you know will not come out with anything. When you have to give up, you have to. When you have to choose, you just have to.
Just like choosing between the two musical concerts, follow where your heart goes. Once you made up your mind, everything will just seem so much clearer. Slowly, your path of love will reveal its way for you. Will it lead to happiness for you? Well again, we wouldn’t know. But if we never try we will never know. At least, I should believe that you will be much happier than to be still stuck at the cross junction, lost for direction?
Remember, the world is not going to stop turning just for you. So is with love. The two persons will not just keep waiting for you. Wishy-washy? You might just end up with nothing at all.
Happiness won’t come passing by twice, cherish it when you have it.
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Happiness – Be Happy Now And Forever 2 Simple Tips
I was listening to the radio today and heard a couple of songs that made me think about the meaning of happiness.
I thought I would share the two simple tips that came from these songs – that can make ANYONE happy if they listen to them.
You don’t have to listen to the songs, but understand their meaning and you will be happy now and forever.
Let’s look at these 2 tips and the blessing of happiness we can all enjoy in life.
1. Happiness is a choice
The first point to make is that happiness is a choice in life - you are not born happy, just as you are not born sad.
Happiness is a choice that we all can make and it’s all about having the right attitude.
The first song is by a little known English comedian and singer Ken Dodd - called simply “happiness”.
Some of the words go as follows:
“Happiness, happiness the greatest gift that I possess I thank the lord for happiness”
We should all thank god.
Happiness is not just a word it’s a character trait we are all born with and we should all take advantage of it – its there you just need to reach out and happiness is yours.
We just have to get the right mindset and we can be happy for now and forever.
The point that is vital to understand if you are to achieve true happiness which leads me onto my next song.
2. Be happy despite.
All that life can throw at you which brings me to my next song by Bobby McFerrin called “Don’t worry be happy” The lyric I Look is
“Here is a little song I wrote
you might want to sing it note for note
don’t worry be happy
in every life we have some trouble
When you worry you make it double
don’t worry, be happy”.
We all have troubles in life and we all face adversity in some shape or form – but it is how we view these problems that is critical in achieving happiness.
Many people constantly compare themselves to those who are better off or have more luck in life than them and remain sad due to envy.
However, there are others that take setbacks and adversity in their stride and learn from them and take the positive.
Most people think of people who are better off than them but look at it another way - there are probably millions or even billions of people worse off than you.
People are starving, people are ill, people have their human rights abused, but believe it or not, many of these people are happier than others who have far more than them in life.
A great example of someone we all know who had everything and had is life changed when he was paralyzed from the waste down, was actor Christopher Reeve.
Did he feel sorry for himself?
No he didn’t!
He devoted his life to helping others, vowing to walk again and was an inspiration to all who came into contact with him.
While he lost his capacity to walk, he was still happy with the other aspects of his life including the work he was able to do and the love and support he received from family and friends.
So do you want to be happy or sad? It’s your choice:
“When you worry
Your face will frown
And that will bring everybody down
So don't worry, be happy (now).....
God gave us the gift of happiness and it’s up to us if we accept it or not, achieving happiness is really that simple.
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Create Happiness: Replace Force with Cooperation
We have all found ourselves, at one time or another, engaged in what seems to be an endless, frustrating struggle to achieve success with something at which we have failed. Often, that struggle may have been to get someone else to be “reasonable,” “fair,” or “logical.” We may have been engaged in an attempt to accomplish the impossible, to control what we have no control over: the other person. The struggle sometimes turns into a fight with the other person or a criticism of ourselves.
We are all equipped with genetic knowledge about how to survive: fight or flight, freeze or submit. We know “in our bones” how to defend ourselves when we find ourselves in danger. We want our environment to be safe, rather than threatening, and endeavor to make it as safe as possible, by various means.
The “fight/flight” response is a genetically programmed reaction to control our environment and any enemies that may threaten us. The goal is to dominate and control adversaries so as to neutralize them, or failing that, to escape from their domination.
It is easy to understand why we might be inclined to use the same methods to get others to do something we want them to do. We act that out in positive ways, for example, with sports such as football, competing to see who can dominate who as the primary goal. The winner is the team that has the dominant physical control, on balance, over the other, as measured by the points scored.
But in relationships other than sports, when there is no agreement to compete, attempting to control others turns into frustrating and hapless struggle, because we cannot control others, short of putting them into physical bondage.
The struggle to make things and others be what we want is familiar and understandable, but when it comes to achieving cooperative relationships, it is doomed to failure. The reason is that one person cannot control what another thinks or does.
The exception to this principle is parents’ responsibility to care for children, to assure that their behavior and environment is as positive and nurturing as possible and to protect them from hurt. But children also gradually let the parents know as they become emotionally and financially independent that the parents have less and less responsibility and eventually no responsibility to manage their lives. By growing up, the children work the parents out of the job of being caretakers.
More sophisticated methods of relating than fight/flight are required for satisfactory adult relationships, methods affirming the autonomy and freedom of each person, still allowing for initiative to pursue what each person wants. One way to think of ways of relating that succeed in relationships is to focus on cooperation.
Replace force with cooperation.
Since we cannot force ourselves, others, and nature to be what they are not, we do well to accept the reality of ourselves, others, and nature being the way each is, bringing ourselves into harmony with reality as it is. We can then choose how to relate to each person as he or she is, including the choice not to relate. With ourselves, we do well to give ourselves permission to think, feel, and act as we think, feel, and act, and then see if there is anything we would like to change about ourselves. We can spend our limited energy on productive change, if we wish to do so.
The same principle applies to others. First listen and observe to understand more about the other person, and then decide how you wish to relate or not relate to him or her. You can get better acquainted, and since no one is the way you ideally want him or her to be, you can decide whether there are enough positives to warrant being more involved.
The process of getting acquainted with another person more deeply allows you to honor what is important to that person in combination with honoring what is important to you. Then you can negotiate to arrive at some ways to accommodate that give you both enough of what you desire.
The negotiation process is not complicated, and is something you already know how to do. After listening and understanding the other person’s point of view, you simply state your own, using “I” statements to describe your response to whatever has happened.
This way of communicating your own point of view avoids any criticism of the other person.
Another self-created struggle results from the attempt to create a close relationship by taking responsibility for the happiness of the other person. This “co-dependent” arrangement is based on the belief that “If I sacrifice myself to please you and you sacrifice yourself to please me, we will both be happy.”
This setup backfires because it violates the reality that each person can only be responsible for his or her own happiness.
The resentment that results from carrying the burden of keeping others happy and from their failing to keep us happy in return kills the relationship instead of blessing it. The obligation to please others creates resentment and fear of closeness, as described in more detail in my book, Taking the Fear Out of Being Close.
The positive alternative is to cooperate with the biological reality that you are in charge of your own decision making, and also have the option to treat others in loving ways without being obligated to be their servant. You begin with taking care of yourself, being loving toward yourself, and then treat others in the same way you wish them to treat you, even if they do not.
Here are some ways to practice replacing force with cooperation.
1. Begin any joint activity with another person by understanding his or her point of view. Full understanding always includes
Data — Ask about the ideas and beliefs that guide the other person’s actions and feelings, whether or not you think they are true. Listening and acknowledging what another person thinks does not require agreement.
Logic — See how the other person weaves together ideas and beliefs in a way that makes sense to him or her. Seek to understand the rationale behind the thinking and actions.
Empathy — what might you feel if you were in the other person’s shoes? Use that information to connect with the other person’s emotional energy of anger, sadness, fear, and happiness that flow from his or her beliefs and actions.
These same elements are found in the Couple’s Dialogue as taught by Imago Relationship therapists, and in other models of active listening. The bottom line is to find out what is emotionally important to the other person, what the other person wants, so as to take it seriously, with respect, even when you disagree. You can read more about this in my book, Making Relationships Work, available as an ebook or hard copy.
2. If you find yourself angry about what someone has asked you to do, remind yourself that you have a choice about how to respond to what another person says or does, and that you can take time to think about your response.
Ask yourself if you must do what is requested. Good relationships do not require that one always do what pleases the other person. You are not required to do what violates your values or what your “inner wisdom” rejects.
Tell the other person what you have decided to say or do (rather than keep it to yourself), especially when what you have decided is a new way to talk or act, a change from your typical behavior.
3. If you find yourself angry about what someone has ordered you to do, think about whether you have agreed to do what was ordered, as in a military or job setting. Remember that even in such a setting you still have a choice about whether to honor your contract to follow orders.
Remind yourself that when you do not have an agreement to follow orders, as in a romantic relationship, you do not have an obligation to please the other person, even though you may wish for him or her to be pleased. Then let the other person know what you have decided to do.
4. Here is a model for requesting another person to change a behavior. I present it in a linear, logical fashion, though in practice you may not use the same words, and you may use a different order. This is a way to make requests in ways that respect the other person’s point of view.
When you . . . (describe the behavior you like or dislike).
I think . . .(describe the meaning you assign to the behavior).
I feel . . .(name your feeling response).
I want . . .(propose your solution)
Will you . . .(ask if the other person will do it, and get a response of some kind).
Negotiate as , if necessary, to find a mutually acceptable alternative solution.
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Modify and use these exercises in your own customized ways, your own ways to create more happiness in your life.
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How To Stay Motivated To Achieve Your Goals
With so many distractions in our midst, with so many excuses and reasons to quit, how do you stay motivated to achieve your goals?
Staying motivated will help ensure your success in life; it will help ensure that you accomplish your goal of improving yourself.
It is important to remember that all work and no play is not the way to live one's life.
Balance is the key to anything.
When one focuses too much on one avenue in life, all can go to the wayside in another part of one's life.
The imbalance can cause one to feel pressure and stressed, feeling as though giving up would help more than persevering.
This is why finding ways to avoid this and stay motivated is imperative.
Give yourself rewards.
Take the time to reward yourself for your hard work and achievements.
If no one else is there to do it for you, be your best fan, your biggest supporter and your best friend.
Reward yourself with things that will refresh your spirits and keep your positive energy high.
More helpful techniques.
In addition to a reward system there are many other techniques that can help you in your efforts to stay motivated.
Let your imagination go.
Think of the things that you say and do all day long to motivate yourself to go to work, to clean your home, to do just about anything.
You already have the motivating skill inside of you; it pushed you to read this article!
You just need to exercise this skill, practice it until you no longer have to think about it.
In addition some ideas that can help you motivate yourself follow:
Remind yourself of the final reward.
Motivate others! When you do this, it reinforces the skill to motivate yourself! Praise yourself.
It is not easy to take on big risks, this in and of itself is praiseworthy!
It is a brave, brave move that some people wish they could do, live their whole life but never do so out of fear.
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Quick Inspiration: Self Improvement And Success
Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.
I remember watching Patch Adams – its my favorite movie, actually. Its one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become the a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.
So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips, friends…
*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?
*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.
*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.
*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.
*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.
*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.
* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.
*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.
*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.
We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.
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Don't Shoot the Messenger
“Whenever you have truth it must be given with love, or the message and the messenger will be rejected,” - Mahatma Gandhi.
In the previous article I described relationship anchoring - how a few seemingly common sense reactions can destroy even the best of relationships, and how by timing your reactions just a little differently you can easily turn things around. Today I continue the topic of creating extraordinary relationships by examining something that happens to all of us every day, yet something that only rarely people are skilled at - communicating negative emotions well.
Think of the last time Someone did Something that made you feel bad, and how you expressed your feelings. Did you get the emotional support you wanted, did you resolve it peacefully or did you get into a fight? Even if you believe that someone slighted you and made you feel bad (this line of thinking - "(s)he made me feel bad" - is a perversion of reality that I will talk about in the next article), it is still your responsibility to communicate skillfully how you feel. The worst kind of strategy you can use is to blow up and psychologically punch your "offender" (weren't you just yesterday saying how much you love her/him?)
Some simple examples when this happens include one partner coming home late from work, the other feeling upset. Or one leaving the bed unmade, the other feeling angry. Or one being busy, the other feeling uncared for. Or one flirting, the other feeling jealous. And millions of other everyday emotional disturbances.
Of course, it is important to speak your mind, to let people know how their behaviors affect you, especially if you are in a close relationship with them. Otherwise, if you repress your emotions, they slowly get built up inside, until you explode (and your relationship together with them). But, if you never learned how to communicate your feelings well, it is very easy to put people on defensive (or sometimes offensive) by blaming them.
The thing is, because most people's identities are not developed enough to withstand an attack, they react by throwing up mental shields to protect their selfs. Once their mental shields are up, they reject all of your words, even if they are appropriate. What follows is basically an escalation war, typically a lose-lose proposition. Example:
- "You are late again, we are going to miss our appointment."
- "Again? When was the last time I was late? You always exaggerate!"
- "No I don't. Remember..."
So, how do you get the message across without being shot as the messenger? The technique is deviously simple - instead of attacking the person because of their behavior, describe how you feel because of the problem that you foresee. In other words, think of it this way - there are three elements here at work: their behavior (e.g. being late), the problem that you foresee (e.g. missing appointment) and your emotional state (e.g. feeling worried). Blaming connects the first two elements together, i.e. behavior to problem, to create an attack (look at the example above again). Instead, skillful communicators use the technique that connects the second two elements together, i.e. problem to emotional state. Example:
- "I feel worried, because I am afraid we might miss our appointment."
- "Yes, sorry, I got stuck in traffic. Let me change really quick and we'll go."
Totally different interaction focused on finding solutions. Of course, it is still valuable to address lateness if it's a recurring patterns and if it's important enough. That can be done later once the emotions have subsided and you re-created strong rapport. A simple rule is to discuss differences and disagreements only AFTER you have great rapport, NEVER before.
Test this new strategy for communicating how you feel, and you will see first-hand just how much difference it makes in establishing a harmonious relationship. In the next article, I will describe the what and the how of blaming, and point out how the language gives your thoughts away to observant listeners.
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"The Secret" and TV: How Watching TV May Help Manifest Violence, Poverty, and General Negativity
Recently, I had the chance to see "The Secret" at http://thesecret.tv/, which proposed a startling idea: we create our experiences with our thoughts through the "Law of Attraction". If this is true, then the TV could be a serious saboteur of our efforts to attract positive experiences. In fact, the TV could help attract very negative experiences into our lives.
What is the Secret?
The basic premise of "The Secret" is that we all create our experiences through our thoughts. Through the "Law of Attraction", we draw experiences into our lives that match our thoughts. We literally manifest our thoughts into reality. It is a simple and empowering idea.
Unfortunately, there is a catch. If we focus our attention on our problems and the things that we don't want, we create those realities, even though we do not really want them. If, for example, we worry about our debt and the bills we have to pay, we will create more debt, bills, and worry. If we focus on having money and being happy and grateful instead, we will eventually create that reality, at least according to the "Law of Attraction".
If this law is correct, then it has some far-reaching implications for viewers of some of the most popular types of television shows.
Standard TV Diet - Murder, Violence, and Suffering
Consider the standard TV fare that the networks show on Prime Time TV. Dramas, such as "ER", show horrific accidents, suffering, and death. Soaps, like "Desperate Housewives", are full of lying and cheating. Then, of course, there are the "reality TV" shows, like "Survivor", with cutthroat competition and participants ritually banished from the show. Even if the content is high quality, it is usually still negative.
How many times in this past week have you witnessed a murder (even a cartoon one) or an act of violence on TV? How many cheating wives or husbands have you caught on the tube? How many lies and betrayals have you witnessed?
Could watching these negative scenarios on TV begin to attract them into your life? According to the "Law of Attraction", it does not matter whether or not you want these experiences. If you think about them, you will draw these experiences to you.
The News - War, Disaster, and Suffering
When you turn on the news, what do you usually see? Tales of war, disaster, suffering, robbery, fire, rape, riot, or disease are the usual stories. Furthermore, these stories are frequently accompanied by dramatic, emotional language and graphic, disturbing pictures. Newscasters splash the problems in the most disturbing way possible; for example, showing pictures of dead, mutilated babies from the latest conflict.
Newscasters rarely show the joys and triumphs of the world. Even rarer will they show solutions to the problems about which they report. It is important to understand problems in depth in order to envision an effective solution. However, you have to give your energy to the solution, not the problem itself. According to the "Law of Attraction", dwelling on the problem will only make it worse. I would imagine that millions of people all dwelling on a problem at the same time would create a powerful magnet to attract and grow that problem on a large scale.
Talk shows - Gossip and Slander
According to the "Law of Attraction," what you think concerning others can also call those experiences into your reality. If you dwell on the problems of celebrities, like the dramatic break-ups, conflicts, and drug addictions, you may also call similar negative experiences into your life. Plus, critics on shows such as Entertainment Tonight, tend to be exceedingly negative and judgmental in general, whether it’s TomCat's wedding or Madonna's African adoption. Watching such shows is surely not going to help attract abundance and joy into your life.
Sports - Winners vs. Losers
If you are a sports' fan, you may cry foul that I include sports as an impediment to manifestation. However, with professional sports, there is always one constant - losers. No matter what the sport, one of the teams or individuals will always lose. Whenever you watch a professional game on TV, you are watching someone lose.
But 'losing' is a part of life! Cry the fans.
Is it really?
When friends and family get together to play sports - instead of watching them on TV - the game can revolve around having fun, playing, and exercising. In these cases, everyone can win. For example, a dad can praise his daughter for making a great shot and share in her accomplishment, even if they are competing. That is win-win. With professional sports, those aspects of the game are largely lost.
Life can be a win-win game. However, it is difficult to create that reality when you are stuck on the sofa, watching losers.
Commercials - Lack, Need, and Imperfection
Most commercials operate by creating a sense of lack that can only be overcome by purchasing the advertised product. Remember, if you are watching the average amount of 4.5 hours of television per day, you are taking in an average of 50,000 commercials per year. That is 50,000 messages of "I am fat," "I am unloved," "my teeth are not white enough," "I am a failure" and other such non-sense that you are sending out to the Universe every year.
According to the principles of "The Secret", those 50,000 messages would create that negative reality rather effectively. That may be a reality, which marketers would like to manifest. However, it is not a reality everyone else would likely want to manifest.
The Solution - No TV
In short, if you are working to create a better future for yourself and your family, turning off your TV may be the first step to creating the life you want. This may be the secret why many people find that their lives are surprisingly happier and more fulfilling when they give up the television entirely.
However, don't spend too much time worrying about the problems you may have manifested with your TV habits. That might create even more problems! Start focusing on the solution now. Stop watching the negative content on your television set. The easiest way to do this is to just get rid of your TV.
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Katherine Westphal is the founder of Trash Your TVand the author of the revolutionary TV-FREE System. Find out how you can get in control of your TV addiction (and your life!) with The TV-Free System
Happiness - What Is Happiness?
There are many things that we want in life. We want to be rich, we want to be happy. We know we need to gain wealth, earn money and do investments in order to be rich. But, how do we exactly become happy? So, what exactly is happiness?
There are many definition of 'Happiness'. Happiness is like the highest form of ‘good’ feelings that makes us smile naturally without begin told and sometime laugh at yourself when you think of things that make you happy. It allows the person to be positive and look at things in an optimistic way. However, it depends on your expectations and past experiences. Generally, if something really good happens to us or we achieved our goals, we are happy for a while, then we adapt and it takes something greater to make us happy as we are ‘complicated’ human begins.
Also it can mean the feelings of well-being made more stable by feelings connected to other people by having close friends and/or relationships. In addition, to some people, having a purpose and fulfilling the purpose in life make them happy.
Happiness is all relative, many argued that nobody can be happy all the time, but I believe otherwise. We have a choice to be happy and the decision depends on us.
Thus the meaning of happiness differs from person to person. For me, begin happy is about doing things that I like, without the need to care about anything about surviving on Earth.
Yet, there is a quote “Pursuit of happiness”. It seems that we needs to constantly chase after happiness and pursuit it and one could never really attain happiness. So there is one guy who is so smart to state it during the declaration of if independence that “.. among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness ..”
By: Jackson Tan
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How to Get Rid of Panic and Anxiety through Self-help
In our lives, we all want peace and happiness. We hope for a happy and pleasant environment around us all the time. However, to have all this we must be living in an ultimate world. However, we all know that our world is not ideal and tensions, panicky situations and anxieties arise every now and then.
However, we should not be afraid of them and whenever these situations arise we must be armed to deal with them in the most efficient manner possible. For this, we must first be able to examine our emotions and accept them as they are. Understanding the emotions can help you to learn to control the emotions without allowing the devastating feelings and emotions take control. As the last step, we must try to transform all such negative emotions like anxiety and panic into encouraging ones.
Anxiety has often been connected with worry and both are understood as the same emotion. Nevertheless, this is not true because although both are forms of fear but anxiety is related more to time and resources constraints whereas worry is a result of an anxiety that something we plan will not work out well.
Anxiety occurs because sometimes we need to complete a tight-string project and we fall in a rush. The project is of greatest importance and because of shortage of time or any other contributing factor you will not be able to terminate it to perfection or on time. Often worry also results from the same reasons. Nevertheless, the major difference here that we must recognize is that it may not just be a result of lack of resources but may be also due to some problem with your child or spouse or any other personal issue.
Worries are a result of our personal attachments with certain beings or things. Since childhood, all these feelings are absorbed by our mind. We see the way people react to certain situations and emulate them. While some people behave in appositive manner to situations other don’t. Whichever affects us more determines how we behave to those situations. To throw away all these anxieties and worries one must follow a proper system and diet.
In helping you to reduce anxiety and panic situations, the below mentioned points will go a long way.
1. Regular exercises like an early morning walk, jog, or aerobics.
2. Try yoga. It helps in getting better your blood flow and reduces hyperventilation.
3. Whenever a panic situation arises, try to concentrate with deep breathing.
4. Try meditation as a solution searching method. 5. Follow a healthy low fat and high vitamin diet. Following the aforementioned routine and steps will help you in freeing yourself from negative thoughts and emotions and creating a positive atmosphere around you.
Try these positive countermeasures to anxiety whenever it strikes.
1. We must accept that whatever is happening to us has no purpose to harm us. We must give whatever we do, our best shot but it is useless to worry about the results. Once you have given it, your best shot there is no reason why you should fail, so why panic.
2. We must have self-belief in ourselves. We must tell ourselves that nothing is impossible unto us and that we can face all the problems of life without giving up on them.
3. We should never think low about ourselves. Like everyone else, we are all humans and have equal rights to life. We should never worry about what others think about us because at the end of the day you are your best judge.
4. You must be reminiscent yourself at all times that life is meant for being lived every moment and not for worrying every moment what the next will bring about.
About the Author: Nishanth Reddy is an author and publisher of popular Self Help Blog. For more information on anxiety, panic and how to get rid of anxiety & panic situations visit:http://www.selfhelpzone.com/category/anxiety-panic/
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